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    i am sure, what i am about to tell you seems rather counter-intuitive..
    ..but, i still need you to hear me out:

    in spite of how it appears, on the surface, no members of leadership from grindr pays attention to this board

    it is not my intent to be "flippant" adam; i just wonder, if you're leaving that suggestion for the decision makers of grindr, or for us?

    you're not the first one (and, sadly, you won't be the last one) to bring up filters

    spend about ten minutes skimming this thread

    also, take note of when this thread was created: april 8th, 2020

    soon to be 5 years

    what's happened with grindr in that amount of time?

    if you've "been around" a while, like i have. . . . .

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    filipe,
    the best advice i can give ya on that matter is, we *all* are going to have to do more than just "support" those who pursue the change we desire:
    considering, clearly, there is no one undertaking Cogent Action on that frontβ€”
    β€”we cannot continue wishing on stars, hoping some Knight In Shyning Armour shall intervene on our behalves

    bitching, bickering, and in-fighting on uservoice for another decade isn't gonna accomplish much of anything

    *we* have to step up, as a collective, to stand up to the Corporate Millionaires of
    GrindR who only see us as commas-and-zeros

    the millionaire c-suites who have consistently demonstrated for over a decade now,
    they can and *will* continue degrading our grindr experience,
    in perpetuity,
    because they feel assured that,
    functionally,
    no one is ever going to stop them from dicking us around

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    we also have to be prepared to accept that,
    in this wicked, wicked, backwards world,
    we *will* face opposition from multiple-fronts,
    in our quest to forge our own, exclusive, cisβ€’man-4-cisβ€’man haven

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    i am obliged to point out, there remains a "sticky territory" regarding our femmeβ€’butβ€’cis brothers, and our transman brethrenβ€”

    β€”as i said before, months ago:
    while i'm not typically attracted to effeminate dudes either,
    (unless they happen to look even moreγ€Žmacho』in the face than i do),
    they are still men, not "women"

    β€”and i may just be a bit "queer," myself, considering my openness to intimacy with the right transman

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    i'm sure fra would concur, with me, that the overall better solution for our quandary involves the words "ditch" and "grindr"

    be it, we ditch the "leadership" of grindr, or be it, we ditch grindr wholesale β€” anon, you *are* aware we've hashed out this same, tired discussion about "women" on grindr, just on uservoice alone, for over 5 years now?

    you should know damnΓ©d well, by now, grindr's never going to grant us the filters we so desperately need
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    be sure, by-the-by, to thank our congressional body (and The Don) for 2017's fosta-sesta β€” that's the legislation which, essentially, shut down all the major venues which transwomen and queer men had for connecting with one another, away from our previously-vaunted, sacred spaces

    β€Ž(ironic, that β€” political ideology *is* involved in this mess..
    ..but, not in the way you had ascribed it)
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    i'm not sure why you're talking to me about "social justice movements" and "political ideologies," by the way β€” i'm not interested in transwomen, and i would prefer they have their own space, away from what i consider my territory

    but, also, someone's being a transwoman is no more a "political ideology" than you being (what i assume) a gay man

    transwomen aren't in my wheelhouse either, but i'm not going to go out of my way to make them into a boogeyman

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    alright.

    then, let me ask you this:

    what solution do you propose, for fixing this problem?

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    i don't aim to suggest that you "have to" "accept" transwomen

    i am *certainly* not telling you to conjure up an attraction to transwomen

    what i do want, is to point some things out:
    in every group, there are always a few bad apples

    though i cannot speak on the matter definitively, i do feel confident that the gender dysphorics with whom you take issue, are the ones who comprise the "loud minority" β€” the loud minority who suffer from psychological / emotional comorbidities

    the same comorbidities that hit everyone, regardless of gender and orientation

    just as it is the case that there are hundreds of millions of cis-gays who will never draw notice from anyone because they (we) are naturally chill, the same disposition is shared by millions of people with bona fide gender divergence β€” they will never draw *your* notice because they don't try to be in your face with what they are

    i bring that up, as a counter to your statement, "They choose to latch onto LGB spaces for political reasons and convenience."

    those same bigots who would persecute a trans person for being trans, would have no problem bashing your skull in for being gay β€” if they, somehow, found out that's what you are

    remember that

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    not hetero.
    not cis.

    NH/NC.

    if you're not a cis-gendered heterosexual, those who would pervert Religious Scripture to their own, twisted ends, don't fuck with you.

    transfolk are part of "the family."

    i consider myself fairly neutral / unbothered, generally β€” and even i became annoyed by the ever-expanding alphabet soup years ago.

    an alphabet soup that i didn't even ask for.
    (no more so, than i had asked for the various iterations on the rainbow that started churning out over these last couple of decades.

    i don't really care enough about all that foolishness; but, if i absolutely had to take a stance on the matter, i'd tell you that the OG Rainbow is fine for encompassing any-and-all under the NH/NC umbrella.

    no need for the fragmenting.)

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    at the end of the day β€” on the subject of people you're not interested in establishing a connection with, is there really that big of a distinction between a cis-gay you're not attracted to, and a transwoman you're not attracted to?

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    😊

    i commend you, charlie, for going against the status quo as you are

    we can, certainly, benefit from more exemplary citizens who are willing to defend those who cannot fight for themselves

    (verdad)

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    (i appreciate your maintaining a respectful stance with me, in spite of everything that's going on, bruv)

    circling back to my suggestion about uniting against grindr, instead of in-fighting:
    speaking generally, grindr is a kinda shitty app that only continues getting shittier as the years go on

    (surely, you've witnessed this yourself

    even if, for all those years of your being a part of grindr, you've always been a paying member of some tier, i know you haven't been completely immune to grindr's chicanery)

    in case you're not aware (i don't know your situation)..
    ..when you're not paying grindr's outrageous fees, your experience with the app becomes even shittier

    first and foremost, your grid is so profoundly-small β€” and it seems to continue getting smaller and smaller as time progresses

    those squares on our limited grid are precious

    for this reason, i hope you can appreciate why there is a contingent of us who would rather not waste our time

    our preference for not wasting our time is not "hate" β€” no more so, than is your sentiment about your having sex with another man, at least

    :-)

    i bear no hate for you
    i'm not sure where you got that from

    i bear no hate for you.. ..it's just, if nothing can ever happen between us, as due to your own over-arching preference for "women," why pussyfoot around, as for what the (normal) typical outcome is?

    (which is that, functionally, neither of us exists in the other person's life)

    "hatred" is when i approach you (on-line or in person) and leave you with some choice wordsβ€”or Worseβ€”for your being a queer man..

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    ..what's up, though, charlito?
    do you feel persecuted?
    welcome to the club, if so

    it seems, a lot of people don't like fucking with me, precisely (and solely) because i am black:
    that includes, many latinos and, *especially,* asians β€” again, for a reason that i should not need to spell out
    (but, i *can*, once more, "spell Β΄er out" fer ya, if need be)

    :-)

    at the end of the day β€” in spite of your being a queer man, and in spite of the.. ..hatred you tell us you face, you're probably doing alright enough for yourself, on the hooking-up front
    (certainly, no worse than i am!)

    (in spite of our nearly decade-long protestations) there seems to be many "women" running around the joint

    any hatred you do encounter, i assure you is not unique to just you β€” maybe, you just have a lot of sore sports who see yer handsome mug and are thusly disappointed they can't be with you?

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    you wanna know what makes me sad?

    (like, sadder than i already am?)

    that, at this current trajectory, we'll still be bickering-and-bitching about this very subject well into 2054, and beyond

    i fail to grasp what's so difficult to apprehend here:

    1.) all of us, instead of in-fighting with each other over this stupid shit, should be uniting to take a stand against the monolith that is grindr

    2.) charlie, i'm wondering when did you join grindr?

    and, whether you have tried other venues which cater to transwomen and queer men (like yourself) before settling here

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    the gay community was never about "acceptance"

    there is no "community" to speak of

    at the end of the day, we (the ones with whom you had been engaging, recently) are still humans who just so happen to prefer other *masculine* cis-men

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    it's a particular kind of sting, thusly, every time we find out that a handsome, presumably-masculine man (like yourself) absolutely loathes the thought of being sexual with another man..

    ..if i am being forthcoming, thusly: just as it is true, we'd rather not see "women," because we can never be attracted to them, we'd rather not see you on our grid, because you will never be attracted to men like me

    you suggest, "block" and "ignore"

    charlie, we've had this very discussion, and have already bandied these very "solutions" about, years ago β€” we homos have already explained why Ignore & Block doesn't work, on grindr

    at the end of the day, guapo, grindr's core audience is cis-men who seek cis-men;
    sufferers of gender dysphoria (fortunately) are smaller-in-number than us gay men..
    ..i imagine, queer men (like yourself) who seek only "women" are an even-smaller minority

    i point that out because, with the way grindr is configured right now, it's *gotta* be difficult for you to find what you're looking for

    it's gotta be difficult to find "women" whose mental issues / emotional disturbances aren't so severe, that they preclude any chance of a semi-normal, meaningful, on-going interaction

    (unless, you *prefer* "women" who aren't entirely right in their head..

    ..then, in that case, i can only tell ya, _have at it_)

    do you preΓ«mptively block all masc-presenting cis-men?
    (in a vein, that's similar to how many of us homos preΓ«mptively block as many "women" {and queer men} as we can)

    this would make sense, and i wouldn't be mad at you for that charlie β€” Β΄saves us the heartbreak and headache of dealing with someone we can't suck on

    i am curious, though:
    why don't you like the idea of making sex with another man?

    and, do you consider yourself a part of the lgbtqabcdefgh community?

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    (by-the-by, i've simplified that taxonomy already β€” "not hetero / not cis", or "NH/NC"

    there is only one definition of heterosexual
    {one which i should not need to explain, here}

    it's simple

    and, like me, you're not heterosexual either, charlie

    bigoted religious zealots {the ones who make people like you scared to be with a real man} only wish to recognize cis-women and cis-men
    if you're someone who goes against that status quo?
    to the bigot, you're automatically on "the outs."

    thus, my feeling justified to simplify that alphabet soup down to NH/NC.)

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    so, when was this thread originally started?

    back in...
    ...april 8th, 2020?

    (Β΄seems about right)

    and it's been how long now?

    over two years, soon to be approaching three β€” yeah?

    soon to be three years; and most of us veterans have seen how grindR's elected to handle the situation: with the classic "no response IS a response" tactic

    it's no longer a secret, grindR has been going down the shitterβ€”speaking, in generalβ€”for years now; apparently this company is *not* chinese-owned any longer.
    allegedly, operations are back in america.
    but.. ..one of the new "investors" is someone who "has ties" with the previous china-based owners?

    is this why we're going to be forced to suffer through this untenable mess?

    is this why our only, viable solution here, is to band together to boycott grindR?
    since, obviously, they're only valuing profit over people β€” banking on / taking advantage of a majority of users who aren't even aware (or, who simply don't care) there is an issue?

    LR was very respectful in their approach when presenting this idea for grindR's consideration; but we see this has afforded us no forward progress in establishing the sort of boundaries we cis-men who seek other cis-men need...
    ...nor, for the Safe Space transwomen / transsexuals (and their admirers) could truly benefit from

    speaking for me: it *is* bad enough, my feeling compelled to "accept" the presence of femboys / androgynous fellows, though i'm not attracted to them either..

    ..i wonder how transgendered women and the "straight" men would feel, if those sorts were to flock to their space?

    i'd imagine, they'd be more welcomed there?

    no?

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    what do we do about "dedicated" transmen? i don't want to exclude them from the main grindR grid.
    (have you seen some of those dudes? πŸ₯΅πŸ₯΅πŸ₯΅)
    how do we ensure we're careful not to take this separation too, too far?

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    :-)

    how long it takes someone to answer a message depends on several factors β€” a lot of which can fall on you, the person proposing this feature

    is your profile filled out?
    or is it blank?

    if your profile is filled out, is it filled out correctly β€” with no jokey answers anywhere?

    your pictures?
    do you have any on your profile?
    what kind of pictures are they?
    quality?
    is it evident your pictures are obsolete.. ..or do they look 𝘡𝘰𝘰 professional?

    (it is true, some [perverts] prefer you have *no* pics, or that if you do, they don't show your face; i suspect, those gentlemen are in the minority.)

    if you do have pictures of your face..
    ..well, be honest / objective with yourself:
    are you a 1 out of 10?
    a 10 out of 10?
    mid?
    0?

    body.
    what does your physique look like?
    are you a skeleton? bones poking out everywhere?
    do you have cottage cheese / inner thigh rash going?

    you can also ask yourself the same question:
    how long does it take *you* to answer someone?
    is your speed the same, regardless for who messages you?

    do you respond to everyone immediately, even if you're in the middle of something already?
    (like, work, or masturbating, or a funeral)

    i don't mind admitting that i prioritize people who catch my eye, over those who don't

    but!
    i can also "prioritize" those who don't catch my eye (i.e., i don't foresee hooking up with), if they give me something to work with β€” either, decent conversation, or making it clear they're just trying to be platonic, or if they extend me the courtesy of getting my input on whether i might also be interested in connecting
    (to which i can answer, "i'm not sure," and i tell them what can make me formulate a more definitive answer, or an outright "no")

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    fair enough

    so, it seems i may need to censor some parts of my post, in order to get it accepted on this execrable forum

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    i'm too tired for this shit

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    crover, i know this won't be very helpful but, i do want to tell ya, i feel it is genuinely disheartening, you have to go through this every day

    have you ever had any luck matching up with anyone?

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    the sadder aspect of this story is, the vast majority of you *still* are under the illusion grindR will actually, ever, do anything about these ads

    though, i suppose i can't fault the general public for not knowing any betterβ€”

    β€”for not being savvy, that 99.9999% of all posts made here on uservoice are not checked by anyone from grindR management (much less, moderation)

    that, unfortunately, the only way for any of us to ever get grindr's c-suites' attention, at all, IS by making direct threats, or / and slandering them

    because, otherwise?

    once you're wealthy?

    you could (not) give a shit what the people who you're exploiting complain about.

    once you're wealthy?

    functionally, you're Invulnerable.

    this specific thread approaches two years in age
    the invasive ads, themselves, have been with us for, what?

    6 years now?

    8?

    β€Žcan any of you tell me what action has grindr taken to address our complaints?
    β€Ž
    β€Ž
    just use an ad blocker

    Done.

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    the sadder aspect of this story is, the vast majority of you believe that grindR will actually, ever, "do better," within your lifetime

    99.9999% of all posts made here on uservoice are not checked by anyone from grindR management

    unfortunately, the only way for any of us to ever get anyone's attention, at all, IS by making direct threats, or / and slandering the c-suites

    because, otherwise?
    once you're wealthy?
    you could (not) give a shit what the people who you're exploiting complain about.
    once you're wealthy, you're functionally Invulnerable.

    and, yes: yes, i'm referencing these bullshit ads, that have been plaguing us for..
    ..6 years now?
    8?

    just use an ad blocker

    Done.

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    gay(dot)com

    i have "fond" memories of that era

    i think i was still on 56K β€” if someone called our landline, *that* was the end of THAT session's foray

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    it *would* be nice if we could, somehow, persuade some of the more "connected" homos to leverage their influence / power, towards the cause of de-platforming grindr β€” but, i don't know of any such people, who aren't corporate shills themselves, EB

    also: unfortunately, i am compelled to dedicate more of my time / resources towards, actually, Barely Surviving (in) this cutβ€’throat world; otherwise, I'd figure out how to code an app,
    make some attempts to buff my programme with decent Security Measures,
    and trying finding some volunteers who could help me with moderation β€” with the promise that, once my app gets off the ground, I can begin paying them

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    grindr is not the end-all \ be-all for us

    this much is true EB

    myself, i don't have much social clout β€” otherwise i'd snap my fingers and spontaneously make 500,000 people ditch the shitty app on the spot, until grindr gets its shit together (if ever)

    β€Ž
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    this is 2024 β€” we gay cisters readily can pool our resources together, and put grindr in its place

    (i'm not so sure this "sniffies" platform i keep hearing about is the solution)

    =====

    i wonder if my experiences with gay(dot)com, way-back-when, shoulda served as adequate warning of what was to be in store for my Homo Destinyβ„’ years down the line eb. . . . .

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    that feature is already available through the 'received album' manager

    we can revoke our access to any album we want

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    how does one go about tweeting at grindr?

    sorry to be a dinosaur but, i try to minimize my dealings with that platform

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    yeah...

    ...honestly?

    at the end of the day, removing the ethnicity filter truly was a meaningless, non-effectual gesture on grindR's part

    because, those who are gonna discriminate (due to their prejudice / bias), are gonna discriminate regardless

    not having the filter there to intervene merely adds one more step to that inevitable π™€π™­π™˜π™‘π™ͺπ™¨π™žπ™€π™£ π™‹π™§π™€π™˜π™šπ™¨π™¨ of theirs

    β€Ž
    β€Ž
    β€Ž

    with that said: i'm telling you guys categorically, grindR is ππŽπ“ restoring the filter

    it has been over two years now

    so..
    ..the best thing we can do at this point, is collectively stop paying grindR for what is largely shit-tier "service" anyway,
    and use a blocker to nuke all the obnoxious adverts those sons of bitches bombard us with, for every little action

    the only thing the c-suites of any πš•πšŠπš›πšπšŽ πšŒπš˜πš›πš™πš˜πš›πšŠπšπšŽ πš˜πšžπšπšπš’πš understand is their loss of income, their own (violent, gruesome) deaths, and their own pain β€” beyond these, those greedy bastards could not care less if the very world around them burned to the ground

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    the leadership of grindR has made its decision

    they're not restoring a god damnèd thing

    at this point, we need to start leaving this forsaken app in droves, and go elsewhere

    grindR is beholden, only, to advertisement revenue β€” not to the people

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    what could be the cause of this anger, i wonder?

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    aww.. ..eventide, you're so cute.
    puffing up yer little chest on here, talking like you're the grindr uservoice forum enforcer.

    i wonder..
    ..based on what qualifications, exactly, do you presume your shitty opinions are worth more than my well-thought out statements?
    .
    .
    .
    though, yeah.
    yeah, you're right, eventide.

    "we" do need a filter.
    a filter to help "us" be rid of absolute, wastes of space, wastes of breath, wastes of life trash like yourself.

    πŸ₯°

    [strike]i presume you're white, or someone non-white who fancies trying to align himself with the (problematic) Kolonizing Klan of the world, right?
    indeed.
    and here you are in 2022, arguing with a black man and a latin man about race matters.[/strike]

    and here you are in 2022: a white man arguing with a black man and a latin man about how we're supposed to handle race matters.

    classic.

    i probably shouldn't mention this here but, something else i've learned some time ago about you and your ilk, is whenever you are asked it directly, you never will openly respond with "No I am not prejudiced nor racist against anyone" or "Yes I am racist and prejudiced and proud of it β€” and these are the fuckers who I detest because of their race."

    of course, i don't expect any better from your ad hominem-ing ass eventide.

    but, ya know?
    go ahead.
    please do share with "us," what is it you know about the subject of prejudice, discrimination, bias, oppression, racism, etc. β€” which joshua and i don't?

    come.

    is this a direct question you feel up for answering directly, or are you just gonna ad-hominem yourself away from that too?

    =========

    juan?

    are you directing that critique towards steve and eventide (and ES, apparently?)..
    ..or did you direct that critique towards joshua and i?

    for the record, i'm not "forcing" the colour discriminators to find sexual attraction for anyone β€” i'm only "forcing" them to acknowledge the reasoning behind their prejudice and how, on the whole, discrimination solely because of someone's skin colour, nationality, or bloodline is pretty dumb and senseless

    there is no equating a MSM's espousing a categorical "no indians" or "no blacks" or "no arabs" (and so on) to a MSM's espousing a categorical "no women"

    i know for a fact i was BORN with almost zero natural attraction to the female gender β€” there was no one in my household grooming me to not desire women, NOR was anyone in my household grooming me to want a hard dick in my mouth

    me lusting for men and not lusting for women is what you very much-can consider a "biological imperative" over which i had no control; NOR had i had this disposition taught me by anyone.

    =========

    what *is* so "different" about me, i wonder?
    why don't i go around saying "no whites" or "no asians" or "no blacks" or "no latinos" (etc.)?

    how is it possible, i find all nationalities / bloodlines equally appealing?

    .....

    on second thought.
    nah.

    never mind all that.
    i know i'm only preaching to the choir, posing that kinda rhetorical.

    eventide / steve, and whoever else: i know you're just gonna come back with further garbage.
    further garbage, that will not address why you NEED to filter out by race.

    so please don't bother.

    be happy you and i both agree you discriminators SHOULD have your race filter restored.

    oh.
    by the way.
    do you have a problem with me calling you "discriminators"?
    but, is that not what you are?
    i can readily tell you i sexually-exclude 99.01 - 99.98% of all transsexual / transgender women β€” MtFs.
    almost all MtFs, i never shall willingly go to bed with.

    but, you observe how easy that was for me?
    i owned up to an entire group i sexually preclude. (i can even explain for you why i preclude MtFs, if you're curious.).
    there are other attributes people might have β€”some attributes of which, they have no immediate control overβ€” which would cause me to "automatically" preclude them from my attraction pool; though for the sake of "staying on topic" eventide i won't mention them here.

    πŸ˜‚

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    @Anonymous ( April 28, 2022 14:48 )

    I appreciate your response, in which you were being reasonable and respectful with me.

    Regarding the policing of preferences (a word which, in this context, I'd almost always place within quotation marks) β€” in spite of my strong words thus far, I'll reΓ€ffirm that I am *quite* 'in favour' of an in-app ethnicity filter, for the racists / prejudiced fellows to employ.

    Let it be known: I *had* been (and am presently) working on another response for the 2 - 3 individuals who, thus far, have seen fit to ad hominem / logical-fallacy me here β€” in this response, I happen to detail, further, how I believe the restored race filter should work.
    No need to worry.. ..My proposed caveats, at their worst, affect neither the discriminator / discriminatee. If anything, the discriminators should be tickled pink.

    =========

    Addressing this to the general forum / my current set of detractors:

    Years ago, I'd arrived to the conclusion, I live in a world with many humans who just can't be reasoned with. Humans who, functionally, are "lost causes," who are better off disposed of than to be allowed to continue on, wreaking havoc and causing other innocent humans undue misery.

    β€’ If you are a *rump supporter / sympathizer
    β€’ If you believe racism / oppression is not an issue
    β€’ If you're a "pick yourself up by the bootstrap" espouser
    β€’ If you believe in "rules for thee, but not for me,"

    technically, I've already written you off.
    I know I won't be changing your mind, much in the same way you may be assured you will never change my mind.

    And supposing you did, somehow, manage that, I'd be a fool to believe you'd embrace me unconditionally: because, long before I came out swinging on this forum, you already decided you didn't "like my kind." Because of my skin.

    I'm still amazed you don't come out and say "I don't like the black race." Fucked up as that is, I wouldn't advocate for your being banned / banished off here for making that kind of declaration, of itself.
    It's when you start bringing in the extra shit that I have the problem.

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    @ ES
    I refuse to believe "every single black person" (in your area) seek only trans. I feel like there probably were black men who've previously expressed interest in you but you turned them down for not being your type (which is fine, that's your right to not be attracted to everyone).
    I might've been more likely to had lent credence to your lament if you had stated instead "every single black man WHO IS MY TYPE seem to only want chicks with dicks."

    Never-the-less...
    ...I agree with you, 100%, GrindR should (if for no one else) be allowing unlimited members the capability to filter by ethnicity and by gender expression.

    If I were paying GrindR for "premium" service, I know I would want to option to unclog my grid of those individuals whom I never will be attracted toβ€”I am turned on by male / masculine features, which can include the transmen who completely commit to being menβ€”and from those who never will be attracted to me, as I am not a girly boy.

    The self-loathing, scared boys who are too afraid to face off with *real* men.

    The unfortunate guys who probably could have benefitted from some real, serious counseling / intervention β€” I know *some* people were born in the wrong bodies.. ..But *this* many males with "gender dysphoria"? (Pretty troubling, indeed..)
    Moreover, I can just look at their pictures and tell they're dealing with mental health issues, even serious mental dysfunction. These dudes made their little "switch," emulating what they think it means to be a woman, and they're still not happy. (If anything, their problems are now multiplied.)

    On the other hand.. ..Nothing about GrindR strikes me as being worth $40 a month. Basic functionalities which Scruff has, GrindR wants to charge us for.

    At any rate, I hope you are not under the impression every black man is "like that."
    We are not.

    @ Cody Padgett
    It is true you didn't come right *out* with saying 'The "N" Word' (the "N" word with the hard "-er"), but you might as well have.
    Because, with all those words in your comment down there, and you chose to only abbreviate "people" β€” in reference to us black people.

    Yep.

    You conscientiously-chose to reduce us to just "ppl" because, in your eyes, we're not even worthy of the consideration of the full word "people."

    "Ethnicity" and "Majority" and "Actually" require more effort to spell out than "people," so I don't want to hear any bullshit from you about "I was just saving time" or "I didn't mean it that way."

    You managed to cram in so many micro-aggressions against African-Americans, within the span of those fifteen words... ...You should just come out and say you don't like black PEOPLE.

    First of all, I am a black man, and I am in support of restoring the ethnicity filter.
    (So on that basis alone, automatically, your assertion of "It's only the black ppl" is factually inaccurate.)

    I am a black man, and I don't arbitrarily restrict my attraction to ANYONE based solely on their skin colour or perceived ethnicity β€” so I have no need (nor desire) for that sort of "filter" myself.

    I am a black man, and I want the ethnicity filter restored.. ..Though, on the condition, all those individuals who find my black skin problematic / repulsive, reciprocally-are filtered out of MY grid, so I don't have to see THEM.
    i don't have a need to see prejudiced, racist bigots β€” and good riddance.

    second of all, it's not the ethnicity filter "black ppl" have the beef with β€” our beef is with the racist, bigoted prejudiced assholes who see no problems with their behaviour.

    i'd love to know what you think about the indian, latin, thai, white, philipino, cantonese, arab men who willing buried their faces in my crotch β€” who all made it exceedingly clear, to me, they wanted to be bred with my black seed.
    black seed, explicitly, from MY black dick.

    you reckon something is wrong with them, because of this desire? are you thinking, "how can they want to lay with a lowly n--ger like that? don't they have any higher standards for themselves?!"?

    you can't conceive such a desire is possible?

    you can't conceive it possible, people being attracted to others 'in spite of,' 'because of,' OR 'regardless of' colour?

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    yeah, honestly?

    removing the ethnicity filter was nothing but an empty, performative platitude grindr enacted to quiet down some squeaky wheels

    nothing meaningful was accomplished by doing this

    i also would not be shocked if grindr didn't view this "politically correct" move as nothing but an opportunity for a potential money grab, one that makes it more annoying for folks to find what they want (or exclude what they believe they don't want)

    we all know the racists, the close-minded, and the bigots are going to stay racist, bigoted, close-minded, and/or prejudiced β€” nothing has changed just because their ability to directly sort according to their biases, however short-sighted, has been taken away by the platform they happen to be on

    i'm of the opinion: good riddance

    i don't want colour-excluding assholes clogging up *my* grid β€” irregarding whatever reason the asshole excludes by colour

    so, grindr?
    bring it back
    go ahead and bring that ethnicity filter back

    find yourself another battle to fight
    fight *this* battle in another way
    unless, of course, you actually don't care about the marginalized/ostracized β€” only the dollars that you would lose if that function of your app is restored (for free)...
    ...which, from what i've observed, actually is a "modus operandi" that is well within 'brand' for your company

    P.S. β€” i'm a black man who does NOT engage in making categorical ethnicity-based exclusions
    i'm also a black man who recognizes EVERYONE can be a remarkably-foul piece of shit, irrespective the colouring of their skin

    that said, i will leave off with these two points here:

    1.) colour exclusionists? ask yourself WHY you exclude all members of a given ethnicity

    2.) we've been fighting this war for centuries now, and might well continue fighting it for centuries more

    i do have one fun factoid/reminder: back during the time of sanctioned black enslavement, some white enslavers DID, very much, have no problems seeking us out for their sexual gratification
    they evidently weren't repulsed by the idea of becoming intimately-acquainted with our ebony black flesh, eh?

    actually, now that i think about about...
    ...this is also true of the colonizers from western europe β€” the "latin" ones who invaded / pillaged the indigenous of south and north america for many generations

    is it not?

    those white parasites couldn't help themselves from schtupping all those golden brown natives (natives who, originally, were-all minding their own business...not even aware of the impending White Doom) either

    those colonizers didn't turn *their* noses up at the idea of commingling with "lesser" coloured people, now did they?

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