I, along with thousands of other gays, am a side. Unlike tops or bottoms, we don’t enjoy partaking in anal sex. Unfortunately the only options available under “position” all refer to anal sex. It’d be very helpful to include an “oral only” or “side” or anything really, so that we don’t have to explain ourselves to everyone who messages us.
Yes, ORAL ONLY or equivalent should be a choice.
Wesley Tyler commented
+1 I've been wanting this ever since they rolled out these ridiculous choices that don't include me.
Wellington Mendes commented
Please add the "side" option. WE EXIST.
I completely support the addition of a side category. To those who say it could cause confusion - maybe it will actually make people look up what side actually means, and will help like-minded men find each other easily. Gay sex is not equal to anal sex. Grindr why is it taking you so long to recognise this. Please sort it out!
Shawn King commented
Because the gay community isn’t complicated enough.
I agree with @gbauf, it doesn't take much to add side as an option. From a User Experience (UX) perspective, though, users will understand better the word "ORAL" than "SIDE." They could interpret SIDE for another version of ANAL sex. Perhaps "SIDE/ORAL" could work?
Andy Zambella commented
Nikki Moorehead commented
This is long overdue! I'm proud to be a side and guys like us need to be able to identify and be found.
I support this. Calum McSwiggan explains the 'side' position in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wC-jDU1xgDs
Rodzki Almo commented
I agree to include ORAL ONLY for i am not into horse back riding nor a good samaritan either.... tops and bots knows these phrases hahaha by the way i am into sides.I adore cock putting into my mouth not inside a cave full of bats and i love my cock to be suck not fck. Haha
Paul Rosenberg commented
News flash: Anal sex is not THE definitional act for men who have sex with men. Search Wikipedia for “gay sexual activity” and you find this: “… an online survey of 18,000 MSM in Europe "showed that oral sex was most commonly practised, followed by mutual masturbation, with anal intercourse in third place." A 2011 survey by The Journal of Sexual Medicine found similar results for U.S. gay and bisexual men. Kissing a partner on the mouth (74.5%), oral sex (72.7%), and partnered masturbation (68.4%) were the three most common behaviors…”
This topic is getting so much response and overwhelming support because non-anal is MAINSTREAM sexual preference for us. Is anybody at Grindr actually using Uservoice or is this just a tool for diverting users so complaints can be ignored? This has gone long enough. DO SOMETHING.
Bachir Zazon commented
Hola quetal filez año nuevo a todos... nicisito activar la página de grinder
It's astonishing that adding an option to an existing filter gets ignored by Grindr for so long.
- There are significant number of people identifying as a "Side".
- This addition won't affect users who don't identify (or agree) with the "Side" definition.
- This addition will benefit users like myself, who don't fit into other categories and feel excluded (as if being gay is not enough exclusion in life :)
- IT TAKES ZERO ENGINEERING EFFORT.
Please Grindr, at least comment on this issue.
Luis Menendez commented
This should totally happen although I am a bottom I can see the frustration I whole heartedly support this
I support this!
John Liebgott commented
I support the addition of the term Side. If there are people asking for it then there must be a reason. Some people may not understand at first but they will sooner than later.
While I endorse including the category “Oral Only,” I would not understand the term “Side” to mean the same or necessarily to exclude anal sex. Maybe my understanding of homosexual vernacular is limited. “Side” strikes me as ambiguous, possibly horizontal doggy style anal sex as well as simultaneous 69 oral in bed.
King Sized commented
As times change, so can the definition of words. A tweet is not a bird chirping, and if something is "fire" it probably does not mean it's in flames.(<AAVE) Us gays have a knack for taking ownership of a word or phrase and changing it's meaning. Or maybe a "bear" is just an animal who lives in the mountains? And if these grindr guys are "thirsty" I doubt you mean they need some water. It's a simple change and I promise you there are a lot more of us out there than you think. And I want to be called a "side" not "that gay guy who doesn't do anal"