I think it would be great if Grnd added "side" as an option. There are a lot of us.

That would be amazing

WTF, Grindr! I'm so sick of watching this comment thread go nowhere. 790 votes and still total radio silence from Grindr. JUST ADD IT!

And everybody, "Side" doesn't mean "oral only." It means, "everything but anal." It means "I don't f*ck." What's left includes a world of alternatives from vanilla to kink. It is a signal to those who think anal is the only sex there is to leave me the hell alone, and for the MANY guys like me to know that they will not have to deal with that myopic pressure from me, because I get it: Sex between men is much more than just tops and bottoms and pеnises going into butts. A "Side" designation will actively help us find each other so stop stalling. Leaving it out indicates that Grindr is as myopic as all of those who can't think outside the hole.

I don't understand the need for a new 'appropriation' of a common word when "oral only" is perfectly descriptive. Tops and bottoms can be oral only. But what if you're Side but you don't give, just receive? Now we need another word for those two specialties. What about solosexual? Every preference can't be special. Just list your preferences in your profile. Easy fix. People also have a misunderstanding of whether oral sex is a top activity or a bottom activity. Giving or receiving, etc. I am more confused by needing a special category for 'oral only'. I think 'oral' is an option right along with 'top', 'bottom' already isn't it? Incidentally, giving oral is a 'top' activity, getting oral is a 'bottom' activity.

Oh god, please please add a Side option, it would help so many of us the time and energy.

Yes, ORAL ONLY or equivalent should be a choice.

+1 I've been wanting this ever since they rolled out these ridiculous choices that don't include me.

Please add the "side" option. WE EXIST.

I completely support the addition of a side category. To those who say it could cause confusion - maybe it will actually make people look up what side actually means, and will help like-minded men find each other easily. Gay sex is not equal to anal sex. Grindr why is it taking you so long to recognise this. Please sort it out!

Because the gay community isn’t complicated enough.

I agree with @gbauf, it doesn't take much to add side as an option. From a User Experience (UX) perspective, though, users will understand better the word "ORAL" than "SIDE." They could interpret SIDE for another version of ANAL sex. Perhaps "SIDE/ORAL" could work?

Add Side

This is long overdue! I'm proud to be a side and guys like us need to be able to identify and be found.

I support this. Calum McSwiggan explains the 'side' position in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wC-jDU1xgDs

I agree to include ORAL ONLY for i am not into horse back riding nor a good samaritan either.... tops and bots knows these phrases hahaha by the way i am into sides.I adore cock putting into my mouth not inside a cave full of bats and i love my cock to be suck not fck. Haha

News flash: Anal sex is not THE definitional act for men who have sex with men. Search Wikipedia for “gay sexual activity” and you find this: “… an online survey of 18,000 MSM in Europe "showed that oral sex was most commonly practised, followed by mutual masturbation, with anal intercourse in third place."[3] A 2011 survey by The Journal of Sexual Medicine found similar results for U.S. gay and bisexual men. Kissing a partner on the mouth (74.5%), oral sex (72.7%), and partnered masturbation (68.4%) were the three most common behaviors…”

This topic is getting so much response and overwhelming support because non-anal is MAINSTREAM sexual preference for us. Is anybody at Grindr actually using Uservoice or is this just a tool for diverting users so complaints can be ignored? This has gone long enough. DO SOMETHING.

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It's astonishing that adding an option to an existing filter gets ignored by Grindr for so long.
- There are significant number of people identifying as a "Side".
- This addition won't affect users who don't identify (or agree) with the "Side" definition.
- This addition will benefit users like myself, who don't fit into other categories and feel excluded (as if being gay is not enough exclusion in life :)
- IT TAKES ZERO ENGINEERING EFFORT.

Please Grindr, at least comment on this issue.

Please read this article.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/202005/side-guys-thinking-beyond-gay-male-tops-and-bottoms?amp

This should totally happen although I am a bottom I can see the frustration I whole heartedly support this