Taps. Currently we have the flame, devil and friendly hello tap option. Why don’t we have a “not interested” tap option too? A lot of people have problems with being ignored by others when someone isn’t interested in them. However, people also cannot be bothered to reject others with words - it’s too much effort. This update to the tap mechanism could kill two birds with one stone. It makes it less time/energy consuming to reject people with just a click of a button. AND the guys who feel invalidated when being ignored, can get an answer - instead of pestering folk for answers. I believe this is pretty efficient and is better for everyone’s mental health.

Grindr used to be gay but is increasing everything I don't want...girls, trans, spam, pronouns, genders. Gay men like men. Straight people already have tinder. Make a separate app for trans. The only gender option Grindr needs is male. Allowing nude pics would be nice but supposedly they aren't allowed even though most new profiles are using them. I tried posting a face picture with a collar and another with a blindfold and was told they were sexually explicit even though it only showed from the neck up...meanwhile there's girls and trannys with their tits out and is the last thing I want to see.

There seriously needs to be an optional means of filtering out the Transgendered, the female and the non-gays.

This is primarily a gay dating site but that is not the point. The majority of use are males who are looking for males but that too is not the point.

The point is not quite that in bygone years virtually all of those using Grindr were gay male but now a very high percentage are in either varying degrees of non-gay or non-male mode, but that we are limited to only being able to view the nearest 100 or 600 profiles with the result that those who are not strictly gay are crowding out significant proportions of our entitlement. Being able to filter out those who are not man-to-man would right this anomaly without affect the Trans or their fanciers.

Back in 2009, one of the original Grindr rules was that you had to be of age (usually 18) and male. MALE! What’s a male? Ohhh my goodness how could Grindr be so exclusive! Isn’t it ironic how a woke ignorant culture of insanely evolving political correctness is eroding even the most basic, common sense thoughts about what a dick for dick means. I’m beyond fed up with trying to pacify everyone’s ever changing rules. Cos, sis, tranny intersect purple blue and hamsters. Oh and while we are are it, where are the lesbians and men seeking women, (penis for vagina as observed at birth)? I hate Grindr, it’s owned or was owned by a Chinese firm which was a problem for Tik Tok so just use scruff. The dudes are dudes (have a penis observed at birth) and are way hotter because they have common sense. FukGrndr who will censor the f out of my beliefs!

The stupidest thing Grindr ever did was get rid of one of its most basic and most used filters: ethnicity. In a bow to political correctness, Grindr likely lost thousands of paying subscribers. Why would I pay for the app if I can't even filter for what I want even with a paid subscription? I'm an adult. If I have a flavor for a certain ethnicity or they for me, nothing is wrong with that. Indeed, the lack of functionality now makes it difficult to find ethnic minorities in a sea of white suburbia where I live. I will not pay for a subscription again until the ethnicity filter is restored. Period.

I often find myself having a hard time filtering through profiles that are by not only men with feminine gender expressions, which I have no issue with, but actual cis gendered women. I support the use of Grindr by anyone who is looking for whatever reason.

But we want what we want. For those looking for a good match it would be best to include all possible identity factors, assuming those are legitimate deal breakers that have no malice intended for the person not selected.

I’m not a misogynist for not being attracted to women anymore than I’m transphobic for not having a sexual attraction in that direction. Likewise I’m not dissing or hating more feminine gender expressing men by not feeling a strong sexual attraction to them.

The filters for gender identity & sex would allow for a much more specific approach that would much more easily pair likeminded people without the need for “masc only” profiles or otherwise “looking for ____”. A selection in the profile that allows others to search or not search for themselves using that criteria would also allow for options when one would prefer to not self apply labels but allow for an open inclusive search where they would appear when those filters are selected.

By reciprocation though it would be equally fair to allow for a feature allowing an omission of those profiles during a search. I don’t believe these are narrow minded or old fashioned needs or ideas. There is a wide variance of expression within the gay community. However sex is as personal as voting & we all have a right to choose our ideal mate without input from others whether it be a Christian family values advocate or your own friends.

Our sexuality is unique & that does mean at times exclusivity. Sexual freedom is as much about being allowed to say no as having the freedom to say yes. Our sexuality as men is typically fairly hardwired. It isn’t a moral issue, a kindness issue or a tolerance issue. We should help honor each other’s types, fetishes, kinks, and orientation. I’m a gay man. I’m not bi or attracted to feminine behaviors or appearance.

I still support those members of the gay community that are more feminine. But I am & always will be attracted to masculinity. And had this not already been a somewhat difficult thing to address, in person, at the widest time, in the past, and knowing other guys who’ve had similar experiences, it seems those options are necessary to avoid time wasted & feelings unintentionally hurt.

Narrowing our search only helps everyone meet their ideal match & ensures everyone is only having a great time.

I realize there are a lot of passionate opinions on this issue from both sides. There are great debates that could be had on the subject of masculinity & being a gay man. Some have happened. But a lot of what could be said positively about masculinity is often silenced by those assuming advocating for that in any way or for features on Grindr that would help allow for a search of only masculine gender expression is a threat, a dismissal, or discrimination against others who don’t meet that criteria. This is as untrue as it is that we as gay men, discriminate against women by not feeling a strong attraction to them, reciprocating advances, or refusing to reframe or rethink that lack of attraction to allow them to be included in our dating options.

From someone’s who’s tried dating feminine men several times over the years, sincerely loving them & wanting it to work, I can say my wiring is what it is. And I do as much harm to them, however unintentionally, by trying to deny that as I do to myself. we all need to accept all of us as we are and that means accepting that none of us are for everyone. That not everyone is for everyone else. That our differences make us great & that will inevitably mean we feel differently, want differently, and since all of us are finitely what we are we will match with very specific kinds of people.

What I do by choosing the wrong guy for me is to deny him the chance to find the right guy for him.