Firstly that wife needs to either realise you can't nag someone into being straight or monogamous.

The fee is a good idea and paid only once - not a monthly money spinner. Then add a filter that removes all unverified profiles from all views and a tick box for "Allow Private Messages from unverified profiles" to get rid of bots and spam.

I agree 💯 with this post. It is incredibly important that there be a sticker verification. There are too many people underage using this app. I know of several people I used to know when I was underage that all used this app/others like it and lied about their age. Some would be 15 and say they were 19. Others would be 15 and say they were 24. Everyone should need to be verified with a valid government issued photo id. I support adding a small fee for standard users to cut down on bots and fake profiles as well. The money generated from the small fee could be used for this purpose. Doesn't have to be a large fee. Just something small for standard users. I believe these two changes would go a long way in making the app a lot safer. It would be easier to track down someone doing illegal activities as well such as a stalker. Most people won't use this app or apps like it for these very reasons.

Hi. Grindr should require a verifiable face pic that they would solely have control over, in a guy's profile. That would then be the guy's official "verified profile face pic" (vpfp, for short) and that pic would be the one shown in the grid that he appears on (in?). Should he wish to modify, swap out or delete his current vpfp, he would have to let Grindr know, and then together, they could create a new official vpfp (and would follow the same vpfp procedures to create it). Furthermore, by Grindr having total control over a guy's vpfp, including the creation date of that pic, they could then put a policy in place in which a vpfp is only valid for a predetermined period of time (say 1 year, 18 months, etc.). This would help to make the site more legitimate, appealing, and trustworthy. Maybe you could set a limit on how often a guy could create a new vpfp if he had a free subscription, and maybe allow paying subscribers to have unlimited vpfp changes. As long as in every scenario, Grindr has complete control in verifying the authenticity of the guy and his vpfp, and policing when a new, updated vpfp is required, I think it would work out well for both Grindr and it's subscribers. Grindr would possibly have a new way to generate revenue, and also help reduce catfishing.and fraudulent occurrences encountered by it's subscribers. Also, the subscribers would have access to a larger number of (legitimate) guys in their limited grid and have zero faceless profiles to deal with in that grid! Btw, all other pics that a guy posted as part of his general (public) profile pics, would be under the same rules as what is/was current at that time for public profile pics. Well I hope you like my idea and thanx for your time! Bye!

ive always absolutely loved this idea, being on the app when I was young myself people are way too vulnerable. id say 20 is pretty good age to be joining grindr. but like just turned 18 yeah nah, you're too vulnerable and dumb. 19 might be alright?? idk I'm in australia so im thinking Abt our laws but I wish Grindr really approached this somehow

I second this. I do feel very uncomfortable sharing a dating app with barely of age adults, who are much too young and immature for this app. There should also be a wider range of profiles to view within the subscription people have. Pictureless need to be banned for catfishing and require them to always have up-to-date photos. Showing true physique.

There gonna always fiqure out away

I ask my own Verification as GRINDR will Never get round to fixing this - they are just happy to take the $Money and Run!

"please send me a Selfie face photo of you right now with one finger touching your chin - so I can see your face and your finger"

"please send me a Selfie face photo of you right now with one finger touching your ear - so I can see your face and your ear / finger"

"please send me a Selfie face photo of you right now standing in front of your Fridge (refrigerator / ice box) with the fridge door open, so I can see your face and the open fridge"

The Fakes usually disappear Fast!

SCRUFF APP USES 2 VERIFY PICTURES TO GET A VERIFY STATUS ON YOUR PROFILE! BLOODY TIME GRINDR GOT IT'S ACT TOGETHER AND DID ANYTHING TO VERIFY USERS!

GRINDR - YOU ARE CRAP!

IL FAUT ABSOLUMENT que l'on ne puisse s'inscrire sur un site de rencontres QUE PAR la carte d'identité
Comme ça ça évitera toute triche sur notre âge, c'est très désagréable 😅

I find it helps to ask their age up front when the profile says "18". They usually admit to their real age. Don't know that it always works, but several have owned up.

Yes, please. I'm 18 and old enough to use this app but I'm tired of people reporting me for being underage. I wish there was a way I could show Grindr I'm old enough to consent.

I think 18+ is fine but verification needs to be done so under-age can't sign up

I have been very adamant about age verification and restrictions.

100% agree! I found my 13YO son on here posing as an 18yo.

Proof of age (and identity) with driver’s license or passport should be required. I have quit Grindr a few times over concerns about underage people messaging me. If they send nudes I could end up in prison.

Once again I don't see why everyone continues to think that more rules and stricter enforcement is the way to fix things. Over the last hundred years that's exactly what we've been trying to do over and over again with every single issue that we've had and it's not only not worked but gotten extremely worse. So we need to have alternative methods to keep our children safe and pure like putting them to work and giving them more responsibility and letting them actually go into adulthood Wednesday start showing that they are no longer acting like a child. People say well my teenagers are so immature how could I expect them to be able to handle all that responsibility and the reason is because you didn't get that responsibility to them when they were supposed to get it when they were 13 or 16 or whatever
The answer isn't stricter verification laws the answer is one of several options we need to have parenting get a lot better and parents need to watch what their children do a lot more instead of being lazy and just letting them do whatever. And the dynamics of the family have changed to be centered around the kids being over protected and bubble wrapped and getting everything attainable they can get. Back when children were innocent and they were overworked and didn't get to play that was why we got rid of the child labor stuff because it was cruel to children back then nowadays we have much more humane working environments and we have a lot broader misbehaving children we could put to work

I agree, we need something to limit fakes, spambots, and illegal activities like prostitution baiting. I'm tired of this dude creating "bot" profiles with all those violations, every few hours (!!). Even if I keep reporting him and all his accounts get banned in a few hours, he keeps recreating them non stop. I kid you not, this guy (yes, it's just one guy using Bluestacks and fake gps) has made over 2000 accounts over the past few months.

Put a stop to bullshit like this and set in place something to perma ban users that were already found guilty of recreating the same shit over and over. We shouldn't be the ones constantly reporting them because the system can't preemptively lock them out.

😮 kinda concerning about all this worrying (confusion?) about the age of consent by adults who are not affected by it anyways, since they are over that age anyways ( I assume?)

But I think grindr & other businesses small or big (the ones who ultimately will be held responsible if something goes wrong ) should be able to reduce the chances of getting held responsible for something having gone wrong that they didn’t actually have anything to do with.

Many adult sites I use actually require users to be 21+ to avoid any confusion and to protect themselves and their users even though the law only requires 18+

It also would not be doing the LGBTQUIA+ community ANY favors in this political climate right now and would only get used against an entire group of people by saying it’s “grooming”

And with all the other conversations on this site with gay men saying they think grindr should stop letting straight people use the app, stop letting cis or trans women use the app and kick off all the guys writing “trans only”

( meanwhile they have no fats, no fems as the only thing in their bio lol jk-ish)

But it would be extremely difficult for grindr to argue how that wasn’t or couldn’t possibly be “grooming” since again users all over this site are mad about anyone using the app not only looking to have sex and be ready for it when u r on the app and how that’s all it is for.

Looking at this website and even social media there are seemingly a large number of LGBTQUIA+ people who are NOT asking for acceptance and they don’t seem to want to be understood or include anyone outside their own idea of who the LGBTQ community should or shouldn’t include and just want to coexist amongst the people below them.

I’m sure this isn’t most people but on social media right now it is the people getting highlighted by the media and used everyone else.

It just isn’t the time to be worried about the age of consent for a app users claim to only be a sex app (for gay men)

I think soon a lot of companies will start requiring all users be 18+ because having younger people on any platform online has become a HUGE liability with major consequences and FOSTA SESTA has made it all even more scarier

Parents are not utilizing any parental controls to help make sure their children don’t access anything. They will just hand them anything and let them do whatever they want with it and some companies like pornhub have spent MILLIONS on technology to prevent children from accessing its site but most rely on a child having used their real age when signing up for their email / apple id/ or the parents having utilized one of the MANY free control features offered by so many people trying to make things easier to protect their own children.

As of now even though terms of service and such set in place by websites or apps is legally binding, it’s not actually against the law to violate the rules they set in place and there’s no chance of getting in trouble for breaking rules BUT if your app or site gets used by someone who then breaks the law the business can and has been found fully responsible for its users actions (example: backpage, cityxguide)

I think the courts in cases of children should start allowing business who have children breaking their rules risking their livelihood and freedom to seek legal action against parents neglecting to protect their children from potentially harmful material

Personally I´ve been dealing lately with people askimg me "How many damn grindr profiles do I use/have?" Many guys arround the city I´m kinda new to have been spoting fake anonimous profiles using my own grindr pictures. I haven´t been able to spot them my selg but, as users of this app we should be able to protect our identity from this thiefhs and cafish people that could get us into really bad troubles o even ilegal situations pretending to be us, and also to the victims of those people how pretend to be ourselves. (I used to be so annoyed by blanck profiles with no pics o just headless torsos, why whud people be so scared to show themselves as they are, WELL, I`ll tell you this, I can now see why.)
GRINDR, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!

This is exactly why we need age verification. This 17 year old just stated he allegedly had a conversation with his cop uncle who told him it’s okay to be on Grindr. It’s not. Not only is it against the TOS for using the app, but it presents several other issues including these two main points:

1) When the 17yo shares or receives a nude (federal law applies, not state). That can land someone in prison for a long time. Do not confuse age of consent with 2257/age of majority for nudity.

2) Instances where minors are on the app places the app at risk for being removed from Google/Apple store, and we all suffer. In addition to the Grindr’s TOS, the app stores have their own TOS, which doesn’t care about age of consent—they care about child p laws and 2257 compliance.

No one is forcing you to show your face , grindr itself should verify you, why would that force down low people to show their faces ?