Please restore ethnicity filter
I am Asian, and I would like to have the ethnicity filter option back. As a "minority", I don't think the filter option is racist. It offers me choices. Sometimes I want to search for Asians for example,, and if there is this option, it will make my search much easier to find.
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Anonymous
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My Name is Maxx. This is a very telling conversation going on here… I feel it digresses into unnecessary areas that have nothing to do with basic personal sexual Preferences….of course BRING BACK THE FILTER it’s a no brainer… THATS WHY GRINDR HAD IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.
I walk into a restaurant I look at the menu I order what I want. I don’t sit at a table and tell them to bring me whatever they feel I should eat… When I order a pizza I get the kind of Meat on it I want (metaphor intended). “ I am sorry sir I can’t promise you’ll be getting sausage because we don’t want to offend the anchovies and the pepperonis and the ground beef”. Silly of course…. Thats the point. When I go to the local bar do I sit down and say surprise me? (OK maybe on occasion when I feel like it.. MY choice) but 90% of the time I know exactly what kind of alcohol and what kind of drink I want. Usually I have my favorite go to beverage. So I’m more inclined to order it to make sure that’s the thing I get. I just don’t sit down and wonder why the bartender isn’t bringing me what I like, I HAVE TO REQUEST IT. That’s all this is about. I will take my very obvious and somewhat whimsical metaphor one step further. Do I expect A waiter at the restaurant to go through my menu with a sharpie and mark out all of the items that I don’t like or that I find offensive so that I will never see them again? but what if I change my mind on the 10% chance that I want to see the entire menu. Why is everything blacked out? Absurd. And yet Grindr is forcing us to do just that. My first 5 to 10 minutes when I open the app is spent blocking people. Block block block block. Gone forever… Utter waste of time. “ of course you can have a salad and some pasta but I can’t bring it to you until you’ve considered and looked at all of the meat items first. But I’m vegetarian!!!” “ no sir you clearly have a bias against our other menu items since I see you never ordered them and you always order the same thing”…. Sounds ridiculous but that’s what’s happening here.
SO LISTEN… Just because it’s an ethnicity filter and deals with the race of users on the platform doesn’t change the basic fact that it’s a simple preference thing it’s not so deep. just like all businesses, the filter, just like offering choices, is good business. Grindr is the menu and I wanna know what’s on the menu. If I walk in for dessert I go to the back of the menu and order dessert I don’t waste my time looking at entrées. STOP BEING BORISH AND OVERLY SENSITIVE FOLKS…. BRING BACK THE FILTER SO I CAN ORDER MY FAVORITE MEAL!!!! And in those moments when I’m feeling a bit more adventurous I’ll go À la cart. much love and happy hunting (and much wasted time blocking). A Fellow Gay man!!!
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Chang Liy
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Hi Anonymous, I just want to clarify that my comment was not in response to you or to anyone else who has commented on this thread. My comment was directed only at the people who run Grindr. Peace
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Anonymous
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Lol “anonymouse”, I never claimed to be more intellectual than anyone. You’re not worth my time. You’re ignorant and going tor remain ignorant, continue to ostracize people. Again, I’ll enjoy my Grindr that allows me to see EVERYONE. You exclusionist on here we’re given unlimited blocks, so use them instead of wanting Grindr to bring back this filter. 🤷
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Eventide
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@Anonymouse (once again), I always love when people say "You're not even worth my time" then continue on.. Please decide am I not worth your time because you can't make a proper argument or are you going to continue wasting everyone's time trying to act like an intellectual when you clearly aren't?
The "why" wasn't in your original message. I gave you clear questions in my response and you still couldn't answer a single one of them. Then you try to turn it around to something entirely different and redirect to how you're not even here for any particular reason. You yourself say you're not here to get it restored nor are you here to not have it restored. Literally saying: " I truly do not care if the filters are restored..." If you don't care, why are you here? It's hilarious to me when people like you say these things. You started out saying I'm not worth your time yet you continue to argue. You continue on arguing then say you're not arguing. You even then try to say how you don't care but if you didn't care you wouldn't be here in the first place. You can't "not care" and still keep being so affected by it.
What's even more funny is when people like you do this "You wrote 5 paragraphs..." crap. As if because someone has an actual well thought out, and concise, argument that makes them less than you. You who keeps being unable to prove a single point or argue any point whatsoever. The very second something doesn't go your way you redirect or try to dodge it.
My questions still stand. Let's see if you can answer them. Refer back to my previous reply for them. Though I doubt you'll be able to answer a single one with an actual thought.
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Dkay
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How is it exclusion it is a preference. If it's considered as exclusion because of a specific characteristic you might as well remove age and all these other filters.
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Anonymous
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Lol! Hello eventide, honestly, I’ve seen you’re responses on here and you’re not even worth my time. The WHY it is wrong is in my original message -see original reply that Chang and Bp responded to. Now, while I appreciate that you wrote 5 paragraphs to me thinking you would make SOME kind of impact on my opinion, you do not and will not. I truly do not care if the filters are restored, BUT, I’d also like to say, I’m not here to argue, what’s the point?! This option will not be restored! You’re upset and on here fighting me, when the option has already been removed, why? It’s not the opposite, I’m not on here fighting for it to be removed, you’re trying to get it restored…. Give up. You and Bp should become butt buddies and live in a world of ignorance and immaturity. You’re just as sad as he is.
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Anonymous
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Grindr doesn’t not give a flying **** whether you choose an “ ethnicity” or not. They are however choosing to ignore the majorities interest over a few gays. As seen in the fact they are not restoring this ethnicity filter everyone is interesting in bringing back. This thread has been open for 6 months and not even in consideration.
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Anonymous
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Since Grindr allows people to select their "ethnicity" (euphemism for race), it’s only hypocritical not to have an "ethnicity" filter. By selecting your "ethnicity", you agree that "ethnicity" exists and that people may judge/filter you based on your "ethnicity". People opposed to racial preferences can simply refuse to select their "ethnicity". The vast majority of users across every racial group do select their "ethnicity". Grindr cannot sacrifice the majority’s interest to appease a few disgruntled gays whom nobody wants to have sex with. To those gays: white people may owe you reparations, but they sure as hell do not owe you sex, so leave their sex life alone.
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Anonymous
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I guess it is but at least my age isn’t
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BP19
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Your slip is showing again!
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Anonymous
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Clearly it’s off, and your “ E” stands for EXCLUSION” since that’s why you’re spending your day wasting away on a forum. I’m over it, I said what I said and I mean every word of it. I hope you feel like you accomplished something today👏
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BP19
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My light switch is either on or off, I don't strattle fences or mince words and the E at the end of my smoke stands for EVERYBODY!
My stance is on freedom for ALL communities!
This has nothing to do with race or the "gay community".
This is about freedom of choice for everyone.
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Anonymous
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Nope, I’ve only posted 3-4 times. Tons of other anonymous profiles just come on here to stir up and expose the bigotry only to lose interest with retorting ridiculous comments like yours. I hope you keep the same energy for something that truly matters to this community and not something as ridiculous as racially profiling Grindr profiles. 🥲
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BP19
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You're so done and I'm done exposing you.
You're talking in circles and not making any sense whatsoever.
Your sense of confidence and reassurance is obviously false.
You're emplying that I'm wasting my time on this forum however, if you actually believed your own words YOU wouldn't even be here!
Instead you've posted more comments in this thread than anyone else!
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Anonymous
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Lol, BP you’re so funny! When did I name call? I said “ you sound fragile”
Clearly you are, you’re arguing with me on a forum, when all I did was state your racist filter is NOT coming back. It’s not my problem, control what you can control in this situation. Stay on the forum and voice your problematic concern and maybe, despite having over 5,500 votes, it will not be heard. -
BP19
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Fragile, really! Well you're clearly at a lost for words but name calling won't shut me up.
The fact that you think you're entitled to a "point" is what's wrong with the world! You don't get to have a point, say, or opinion about someone else's life or any business that does not concern YOU.
I wouldn't even know who's not interested in me because I only focus on who is! If you're a desired person it doesn't matter what your race is you'll still be desired with or without an ethnicity filter.
The ethnicity filter is an OPTIONAL FEATURE for those who know who they are and what they want in life!
It isn't forced on anyone if you don't like it don't use it.
The only people who'd complain about a ethnicity filter are the stalkers and the mentally challenged predators that can't deal with rejection!
Those are the facts there is no sane nor intelligent rebuttal to be had.
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Anonymous
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BP, you sound fragile, and the first sentence of your response proves my point and exactly why my point still stands, getting on a Grindr forum to voice this and you still don’t have those beloved racist filter. Bye.
Chang, no need to “rephrase it so I can understand” I’m not here to defend Grindr, this app and many others are the reason BP feels so empowered, around 10 years ago you could get on Grindr and state racist, homophobic nonsense on your profile and it was completely tolerated, but it’s 2021 and most are not going to stand for it. It’s ignorant and we are looking for a better tomorrow, if you and some of the others want to use filters to look for intimate connects, as stated on here by others, A4A, sniffies and others might be the applications for you to use. As they do not monitor hate speak on your profile.
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BP19
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Hey Anonymous I don't want to see Whites, Asians, or any kind of Latino EVER not as a friend buddy or pal and absolutely NEVER sexually. I'm not racist I know what I want and I shouldn't be subjected to you nor others that I have ZERO interest in just because you can't deal with rejection. Seeing the profile of someone who is not interested you is pointless it facilitates unsolicited attention and advances from undesirables and it enables stalking and harassment. Shit like #blm and #stopasianhate shouldn't be allowed on Grindr this isn't grade school we don't all have to get along or like each other there are too many other forums and platforms dedicated to people who want to kumbaya but with an app dedicated to connecting people for romantic interests an ethnic/race filter is certainly necessary no matter which race or group feels disproportionately rejected you can't make people like something they don't and forcing yourself on people is desperate tacky and arrogant and it'll definitely get you reported and blocked anyway! This is not about race its about freedom of choice and preference just like they/them people! Live and let live if you like or want something or someone that doesn't want you that is YOUR OWN SELF ESTEEM ISSUE please don't make it mine.
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Chang Liy
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I'm half Asian, half White, and I find all ethnicities potentially attractive. I go through phases when I seek a specific ethnicity over others, but this changes all the time, and it's more about body type and energy anyway. I'm also a relatively new user on Grindr, so I only know the version without the ethnicity filter. I've enjoyed similar filters on other apps, so I think Grindr made a mistake removing it.
Having said all that, I have read through many of the comments but haven't yet seen any mention of the big White elephant in the room, so I have two points to make here.
1. A large % of gay White men are only or primarily attracted to other White men. This is obvious at any large gathering of gay men. Whites also form the overwhelming majority of any gay population in the West. This means that any gay man (White or otherwise) who seeks non-White men is immediately disadvantaged without an ethnicity filter. Which means, Grindr, that your politically correct removal of that filter is actually harming, not helping, biracial and multiracial encounters. Let me rephrase that in a way you can understand: Grindr, YOU ARE PERPETUATING RACISM. Removing the ethnicity filter was a result of Grindr's failure - and refusal - to understand real gay demographics. Would you suddenly erase Chinatown or Little India from the map to pretend ethnic enclaves don't exist?
2. Sadly, most non-White gay men prefer White men over their own or other ethnicities. In the larger Asian community, with which I am more familiar, this is painfully obvious and common. I suspect it is also very common among Black gays and other non-Whites. Internalized racism is a legacy of colonialism, which thankfully is slowly starting to crumble. As a mixed-race person, I have a lifetime of experience with this: if I grow out my facial hair, I look less Asian, more Latino, and suddenly I get way more attention from Asians. It makes me sad to say this. I find many Asian men attractive, but with many of them, the second I reveal I'm half Asian, it's ghost time, or if I'm lucky I get an honest but disturbing "Sorry, I only date White men".
So you see, the racist White guys on Grindr (by no means am I suggesting all White gays are racist, but there are many) want the filter back so they can go on stupidly rejecting all the gorgeous non-White guys; and the self-hating non-White gays on here (again, many are not like that, but many are) also want the filter back so they can have their full grid of Nearby White candy. And some of us want it back so we can be free to explore all the juicy ethnic diversity out there and not be told what to like.
Conclusion: just bring the ethnicity filter back. You have filters for everything else (sexual position, tribe, body type, etc.,), ethnicity is no different. Let people evolve their attitudes - or not - on their own terms. If for no other reason than profit, Grindr, bring the filter back, because I will never become a premium member if you don't, and neither will thousands of other men.
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Anonymous
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You ALL sound like idiots. The feature is gone and likely will NOT be coming back. There is NOTHING preferential about cutting out an entire race from your dating/sex agenda. Out of each race on this planet, you’re going to sit here and tell me that you’ve met every single one of that one race and didn’t find anything attractive about them?! You’re basing it off skin color and you’re kidding yourself. Go to another smutty app and get off Grindr, we will do as a community without you.