Please restore ethnicity filter
I am Asian, and I would like to have the ethnicity filter option back. As a "minority", I don't think the filter option is racist. It offers me choices. Sometimes I want to search for Asians for example,, and if there is this option, it will make my search much easier to find.
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Anonymous commented
Grindr doesn’t not give a flying **** whether you choose an “ ethnicity” or not. They are however choosing to ignore the majorities interest over a few gays. As seen in the fact they are not restoring this ethnicity filter everyone is interesting in bringing back. This thread has been open for 6 months and not even in consideration.
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Anonymous commented
Since Grindr allows people to select their "ethnicity" (euphemism for race), it’s only hypocritical not to have an "ethnicity" filter. By selecting your "ethnicity", you agree that "ethnicity" exists and that people may judge/filter you based on your "ethnicity". People opposed to racial preferences can simply refuse to select their "ethnicity". The vast majority of users across every racial group do select their "ethnicity". Grindr cannot sacrifice the majority’s interest to appease a few disgruntled gays whom nobody wants to have sex with. To those gays: white people may owe you reparations, but they sure as hell do not owe you sex, so leave their sex life alone.
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BP19 commented
Your slip is showing again!
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Anonymous commented
Clearly it’s off, and your “ E” stands for EXCLUSION” since that’s why you’re spending your day wasting away on a forum. I’m over it, I said what I said and I mean every word of it. I hope you feel like you accomplished something today👏
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BP19 commented
My light switch is either on or off, I don't strattle fences or mince words and the E at the end of my smoke stands for EVERYBODY!
My stance is on freedom for ALL communities!
This has nothing to do with race or the "gay community".
This is about freedom of choice for everyone.
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Anonymous commented
Nope, I’ve only posted 3-4 times. Tons of other anonymous profiles just come on here to stir up and expose the bigotry only to lose interest with retorting ridiculous comments like yours. I hope you keep the same energy for something that truly matters to this community and not something as ridiculous as racially profiling Grindr profiles. 🥲
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BP19 commented
You're so done and I'm done exposing you.
You're talking in circles and not making any sense whatsoever.
Your sense of confidence and reassurance is obviously false.
You're emplying that I'm wasting my time on this forum however, if you actually believed your own words YOU wouldn't even be here!
Instead you've posted more comments in this thread than anyone else!
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Anonymous commented
Lol, BP you’re so funny! When did I name call? I said “ you sound fragile”
Clearly you are, you’re arguing with me on a forum, when all I did was state your racist filter is NOT coming back. It’s not my problem, control what you can control in this situation. Stay on the forum and voice your problematic concern and maybe, despite having over 5,500 votes, it will not be heard. -
BP19 commented
Fragile, really! Well you're clearly at a lost for words but name calling won't shut me up.
The fact that you think you're entitled to a "point" is what's wrong with the world! You don't get to have a point, say, or opinion about someone else's life or any business that does not concern YOU.
I wouldn't even know who's not interested in me because I only focus on who is! If you're a desired person it doesn't matter what your race is you'll still be desired with or without an ethnicity filter.
The ethnicity filter is an OPTIONAL FEATURE for those who know who they are and what they want in life!
It isn't forced on anyone if you don't like it don't use it.
The only people who'd complain about a ethnicity filter are the stalkers and the mentally challenged predators that can't deal with rejection!
Those are the facts there is no sane nor intelligent rebuttal to be had.
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Anonymous commented
BP, you sound fragile, and the first sentence of your response proves my point and exactly why my point still stands, getting on a Grindr forum to voice this and you still don’t have those beloved racist filter. Bye.
Chang, no need to “rephrase it so I can understand” I’m not here to defend Grindr, this app and many others are the reason BP feels so empowered, around 10 years ago you could get on Grindr and state racist, homophobic nonsense on your profile and it was completely tolerated, but it’s 2021 and most are not going to stand for it. It’s ignorant and we are looking for a better tomorrow, if you and some of the others want to use filters to look for intimate connects, as stated on here by others, A4A, sniffies and others might be the applications for you to use. As they do not monitor hate speak on your profile.
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BP19 commented
Hey Anonymous I don't want to see Whites, Asians, or any kind of Latino EVER not as a friend buddy or pal and absolutely NEVER sexually. I'm not racist I know what I want and I shouldn't be subjected to you nor others that I have ZERO interest in just because you can't deal with rejection. Seeing the profile of someone who is not interested you is pointless it facilitates unsolicited attention and advances from undesirables and it enables stalking and harassment. Shit like #blm and #stopasianhate shouldn't be allowed on Grindr this isn't grade school we don't all have to get along or like each other there are too many other forums and platforms dedicated to people who want to kumbaya but with an app dedicated to connecting people for romantic interests an ethnic/race filter is certainly necessary no matter which race or group feels disproportionately rejected you can't make people like something they don't and forcing yourself on people is desperate tacky and arrogant and it'll definitely get you reported and blocked anyway! This is not about race its about freedom of choice and preference just like they/them people! Live and let live if you like or want something or someone that doesn't want you that is YOUR OWN SELF ESTEEM ISSUE please don't make it mine.
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Chang Liy commented
I'm half Asian, half White, and I find all ethnicities potentially attractive. I go through phases when I seek a specific ethnicity over others, but this changes all the time, and it's more about body type and energy anyway. I'm also a relatively new user on Grindr, so I only know the version without the ethnicity filter. I've enjoyed similar filters on other apps, so I think Grindr made a mistake removing it.
Having said all that, I have read through many of the comments but haven't yet seen any mention of the big White elephant in the room, so I have two points to make here.
1. A large % of gay White men are only or primarily attracted to other White men. This is obvious at any large gathering of gay men. Whites also form the overwhelming majority of any gay population in the West. This means that any gay man (White or otherwise) who seeks non-White men is immediately disadvantaged without an ethnicity filter. Which means, Grindr, that your politically correct removal of that filter is actually harming, not helping, biracial and multiracial encounters. Let me rephrase that in a way you can understand: Grindr, YOU ARE PERPETUATING RACISM. Removing the ethnicity filter was a result of Grindr's failure - and refusal - to understand real gay demographics. Would you suddenly erase Chinatown or Little India from the map to pretend ethnic enclaves don't exist?
2. Sadly, most non-White gay men prefer White men over their own or other ethnicities. In the larger Asian community, with which I am more familiar, this is painfully obvious and common. I suspect it is also very common among Black gays and other non-Whites. Internalized racism is a legacy of colonialism, which thankfully is slowly starting to crumble. As a mixed-race person, I have a lifetime of experience with this: if I grow out my facial hair, I look less Asian, more Latino, and suddenly I get way more attention from Asians. It makes me sad to say this. I find many Asian men attractive, but with many of them, the second I reveal I'm half Asian, it's ghost time, or if I'm lucky I get an honest but disturbing "Sorry, I only date White men".
So you see, the racist White guys on Grindr (by no means am I suggesting all White gays are racist, but there are many) want the filter back so they can go on stupidly rejecting all the gorgeous non-White guys; and the self-hating non-White gays on here (again, many are not like that, but many are) also want the filter back so they can have their full grid of Nearby White candy. And some of us want it back so we can be free to explore all the juicy ethnic diversity out there and not be told what to like.
Conclusion: just bring the ethnicity filter back. You have filters for everything else (sexual position, tribe, body type, etc.,), ethnicity is no different. Let people evolve their attitudes - or not - on their own terms. If for no other reason than profit, Grindr, bring the filter back, because I will never become a premium member if you don't, and neither will thousands of other men.
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Anonymous commented
You ALL sound like idiots. The feature is gone and likely will NOT be coming back. There is NOTHING preferential about cutting out an entire race from your dating/sex agenda. Out of each race on this planet, you’re going to sit here and tell me that you’ve met every single one of that one race and didn’t find anything attractive about them?! You’re basing it off skin color and you’re kidding yourself. Go to another smutty app and get off Grindr, we will do as a community without you.
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Tim commented
They should only give the ethnicity filter to people of color who want to filter out whites 🙌🏽😬
I loved the filter for this purpose but let’s be real, 90% of white people had their filter to “whites only” and maybe the real brave ones also had “latinos” selected too.
They don’t deserve to live in their own little world, sanitized of racial diversity. And Grindr has shown they don’t want to provide that kind of service which is awesome.
The filter cannot and will not ever come back.
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JS commented
I would like to have that filter back, I am a latino in his 30's I have traveled a lot and have developed certain tendency to specific ethnicities that for mostly cultural reasons I feel very attracted to. I am a very open person that condemn racism and discrimination but I do not see how taking down the filter alone works on the fight against exclusion and discrimination. I actually believe this might even deepen the invisibility of minorities from the view of people that could be really interested on interacting with who is different, as well as, obstructing the intention of interacting with other cultures or with their own while overseas.
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[Deleted User] commented
@Anonymous Let's use your example of a bar. In a bar you avoid people you're not interested in. If someone you're not interested in was to approach you what do you do?
Now about the "wearing a sign" bit, considering we're not in person so you can't see our reaction or body language about you, it's best for people to "wear a sign" per se when online. Best to just get it out there what you're looking for, what you're not interested in, etc.
If you were hiring for a job would you want to see all the people that aren't even qualified for the position? No.. all you want are the people that could be a fit. Why? Because it saves time and frustration.
I'd much rather someone have "No white guys" on their profile so I know to not even bother than to try and chat and get no reply, get blocked suddenly, or get "not interested."
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Anonymous commented
The difference is that ethnicity filters do not convey discriminatory language to others, whereas stating "no (insert ethnicity)" does. It's like walking into a bar and only approaching the people that you are attracted to versus holding up a sign saying "do not talk to me if you are (insert ethnicity)". One is socially acceptable, the other is not.
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[Deleted User] commented
@John, most of the time I see "racist" stuff being called out left and right it's some white person acting like suddenly everything is "racist" against certain races.. or it's the race themselves trying to use it to get their way.. which is racist.
A DATING app having an ethnicity filter is not "racist" in any possible way. It's a sexual preference and everyone has them. Some are attracted to older people while some are attracted to younger people.. those people get along very well. That doesn't mean suddenly they're ageist and will act horrible towards those people.
What I don't get are the people here trying to say how people shouldn't be allowed to say "no (ethnicity)" on their profile, but also want the ethnicity filter back.. So you want us to be allowed to filter by ethnicity but also not be allowed to say "I don't want black guys" or whatever it may be?
Not being attracted to someone doesn't mean I'm racist, ageist, etc. It just means I don't like them sexually. I can still communicate with them, like them as a friend, etc.
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John commented
I am so glad to see this many people that aren’t white say bring back the ethnicity feature. I think it was a white person who came up with that idea anyway to be honest.
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Anonymous commented
In exchange for restoring the ethnicity filter, there should be a system or algorithm that prevents profiles putting "no (ethnicity/-ies)" anywhere on the profile.