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    Chang Liy commented  · 

    Hi Anonymous, I just want to clarify that my comment was not in response to you or to anyone else who has commented on this thread. My comment was directed only at the people who run Grindr. Peace

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    Chang Liy commented  · 

    I'm half Asian, half White, and I find all ethnicities potentially attractive. I go through phases when I seek a specific ethnicity over others, but this changes all the time, and it's more about body type and energy anyway. I'm also a relatively new user on Grindr, so I only know the version without the ethnicity filter. I've enjoyed similar filters on other apps, so I think Grindr made a mistake removing it.

    Having said all that, I have read through many of the comments but haven't yet seen any mention of the big White elephant in the room, so I have two points to make here.

    1. A large % of gay White men are only or primarily attracted to other White men. This is obvious at any large gathering of gay men. Whites also form the overwhelming majority of any gay population in the West. This means that any gay man (White or otherwise) who seeks non-White men is immediately disadvantaged without an ethnicity filter. Which means, Grindr, that your politically correct removal of that filter is actually harming, not helping, biracial and multiracial encounters. Let me rephrase that in a way you can understand: Grindr, YOU ARE PERPETUATING RACISM. Removing the ethnicity filter was a result of Grindr's failure - and refusal - to understand real gay demographics. Would you suddenly erase Chinatown or Little India from the map to pretend ethnic enclaves don't exist?

    2. Sadly, most non-White gay men prefer White men over their own or other ethnicities. In the larger Asian community, with which I am more familiar, this is painfully obvious and common. I suspect it is also very common among Black gays and other non-Whites. Internalized racism is a legacy of colonialism, which thankfully is slowly starting to crumble. As a mixed-race person, I have a lifetime of experience with this: if I grow out my facial hair, I look less Asian, more Latino, and suddenly I get way more attention from Asians. It makes me sad to say this. I find many Asian men attractive, but with many of them, the second I reveal I'm half Asian, it's ghost time, or if I'm lucky I get an honest but disturbing "Sorry, I only date White men".

    So you see, the racist White guys on Grindr (by no means am I suggesting all White gays are racist, but there are many) want the filter back so they can go on stupidly rejecting all the gorgeous non-White guys; and the self-hating non-White gays on here (again, many are not like that, but many are) also want the filter back so they can have their full grid of Nearby White candy. And some of us want it back so we can be free to explore all the juicy ethnic diversity out there and not be told what to like.

    Conclusion: just bring the ethnicity filter back. You have filters for everything else (sexual position, tribe, body type, etc.,), ethnicity is no different. Let people evolve their attitudes - or not - on their own terms. If for no other reason than profit, Grindr, bring the filter back, because I will never become a premium member if you don't, and neither will thousands of other men.

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