Separate section for trans people and their admirers
I think trans men and trans women along with people who are trans-attracted deserve to have their own separate posting section. That way, trans community members and their admirers can better easily connect with one another. It would be beneficial and make sense to give trans people and their seekers their own platform, connected to the rest of Grindr but as a section within the existing app. You could call it GrindrTrans or something.
I think it should be a separate, disconnected section, I'm a gay biological man looking only for romance or hookup with biological men and I don't want to see anything else on my grid, no trans women, no biological women, wigs, female lingerie etc and I don't care what trans activists think, if it makes be a trans phobe then the word trans phobe has no meaning.
Thomas D Tellez commented
I think Trans should thier own section
The people saying let it be inclusive need to realise we (gay men) have never been given a space for just ourselves. We are always lumped in with lesbians, bisexuals and trans. And in life that's brilliant but for a app for sex not so much. Not to mention the amount of trans on here that put "no cis men" or are absolutely horrible to cis men on here is disgusting.
Let’s all be honest here. Grindr doesn’t care about what people have to say or how they feel. This post has been up for a long time and it’s very clear that Grindr is going to allow a very small representation of the LGBTQ community to have the largest voice. In the meantime they continue to alienate and not care about gay men and seem to have forgotten that without them they wouldn’t be the app they are today. Shame on you grindr.
Troy Hattenbach commented
Oh yes great idea...now we don't have to listen to those haters towards Trans freaking cry so damn much .get over it guys ....lol
Robert Hargis commented
It is a pain in the ass to keep locking the same people every damn day block y IP address or something whats the point of being ale to block if they can rise from the dead daily
It used to be easy by playing the block game on these profiles clogging up the screen, now Grindr created a loophole for them by back-up chats delete app off phone a d reinstall it and login and they will be unblocked by all and appear in fresh faces, urgh!!!!
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yeah, no offense intended but.. ..as a non-paying member of grindR i REALLY don't need my already extremely-limited grid clogged up with people whom i am categorically not attracted to.
i also don't need my grid clogged up with people who never will be attracted to ME, precisely because i am the complete opposite of "female-presenting."
please grant trans-women, and their cis-gendered admirers, their own safe space so they can connect with each other better.. ..and so we cis-preferring gentlemen can have something of an easier go of things ourselves, on the other side!
Please make a separate section. I’m so tired of being asked if I top 🤢 I would think trans woman says it in itself but people are constantly asking what to me seems like a stupid question.
D G commented
Yea this is very disappointing having to weed through the people just to find other gay men, half them trans girls wanting to be gay , or str8 men wanting you to either be a trans cd or wanting to watch you bang their wifes its just getting to out of control they definitely need their own app and platform for what they are seeking and to stay off ours thats for gay men
Greg Alberque commented
I don't care for exclusion, however I am a masculine bottom and it's truly disappointing that I see a aggressive dl straight discreet top and there it is tran or cd only. Again no offense but they are growing in numbers and it would just help to not have to weed through that as well. Also slightly disappointing to see some of these guys pigeon hole there limited needs. Thanks for hearing.
Remove them completely.
Anthony Cooper commented
Agree totally that trans people and trans attracted people should have their own site. As an individual, gay man in my case, i have preferences relating to the men I am attracted to. I have the right to openly state I'm not interested sexually in trans individuals, twinks, total bottoms, Asians, Caucasians or whatever it may be without fear of persecution by the politically correct or being in violation of and being banned from a sex hook up site. Being constantly contacted by trans individuals, total bottoms and twinks I see as being a violation of my rights. Those same individuals may be out standing individuals yet I have no desire to have sex with them and as I attempt to respond to all messages sent to me I find it uncomfortable to have to reject those individuals, who if they had read my profile would not have contacted me. Stating your preferences on your profile should be encouraged and anyone vilifying another for Stating their preferences should be the one that is reprimanded. I've lived my life in rural and regional areas and have had to stand up for my self and who I am as a gay man yet now the situation has become that I am expected to not only be comfortable being approached on a sex hook up app by individuals who are not what I am attracted to. I have been told on numerous occasions by those who believe they are enlightened and politically correct that i am expected to accept this, which is a form of sexual harassment especially if my profile states I'm not interested and that person contacts me regardless. I have also been informed that as a gay man I should accept as a sexual partner and happily have sex with trans men. I reject that assumption totally on the grounds that a trans man as nice a bloke and as hot looking as he may be is not and never will be a man, I am attracted to men, men who have a penis and definitely have no desire to include a vagina, no matter what "type" of individual it is part of into my sexual exexperience. .
Pete Bennett commented
If there were a somewhat easier way to filter out trans / CD folk, I think that would solve my discomfort (turning off the 'trans' tribe in filters does not work). I mean no offense to the two communities, but as someone who is very not turned on by women, it's a repetitive turn-off (on a paid app) that has me spending most of time on the app tediously and manually blocking folks to keep the grid, well, sexy (subjectively!).
Deb Gar commented
I agree with him you start telling people you a full guy and show up some where pull those pants down god forbid someone hurts u for letting them think ur actually a gay male , i would think you guys would want your own app not to be on one for gay men seeking gay men not a woman who wants to be a gay guy like what is that haha
Ever notice that the trans and trans-chasers started to flock over to Grindr right after Craigslist shut down its personals section? CL even had several trans categories (t4m, m4t, etc.) that were separate from men-seeking-men (m4m). Where was all the outrage, bullying, and gaslighting from the trans community THEN like we are seeing NOW? The vast majority of GAY MEN (sexual orientation) are not on Grindr looking for trans/trans-chasers (gender identity), so it makes sense to create separate sections for the two groups.
I agree, to me it's like this obscene idea that everyone is ment to like everyone (friend wise) now apparently have to find everyone sexually pleasing.
[Deleted User] commented
@Zari, just because someone doesn't fully agree with you doesn't mean they suddenly have a phobia. Are you going to say I'm sexist against women because I'm gay? Are you going to say I suddenly have a phobia against women because I'm gay? No because that's a sexual preference. I can be friends with women. I can be friends with trans people - I actually have quite a few of them. Funny thing is they all agree that trans people should have their own site/app and place. It's usually people, like I'd assume you are, that aren't trans who keep coming out calling everyone "transphobic" because they don't agree with your idiotic movements.
I've never heard of Fiorry, but Tinder and Facebook dating aren't designed for trans people. They're both just all encompassing dating apps. Grindr is literally an app for ONLY gay men. That's how it started and that's what it's always been geared towards. Recently though women, straight people, and now trans people have started creating accounts and acting like they should be catered to. Would you go into a Starbucks and demand McDonalds? No, but that's what you people are doing to Grindr.
The funny thing here too is you even say that "trans is an identity".. yet you people make it into a sexuality by saying you won't say if you're actually trans or not. Like the last person I replied to saying they will not say they're a trans man now just man. That's not an identity, that's quite literally false advertisement because you're saying you are something you completely aren't. A trans man is not a man they are a trans man. That's not "transphobia" that's just the complete scientific truth that you morons are too stupid to accept but tell everyone else to grow up.
Genetalia does determine sex.. a female does not have a penis nor the ability to produce sperm. A female instead produces eggs. You can say you're a "trans man" that doesn't suddenly mean you produce sperm.. you literally will never be able to no matter what you do because your body doesn't have that genetic makeup to be capable of it.
As for your whole thing about "intersex people" they're literally a mutation and not typical whatsoever. It's an extremely rare occurrence that can happen in quite a few species. That doesn't mean they suddenly are the definition of something because of a mutation. Are people with down syndrome the norm? No.. they're again a mutation that causes them to be different.
Your other asinine example is women born without a uterus.. once again they're a rare occurrence and it's again a mutation that caused it. They're not typical and yes a woman without a uterus isn't a woman by typical definition. Before you try some other idiotic crap, look at the actual definition of female: "of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) which can be fertilized by male gametes." That's flat out science and definition.. you don't get to just break that and change that because you say so.
None of this is "transphobia" or sexist. It's just pure fact and science that you refuse to accept because you're too stupid or too young. You'd instead like to just keep fighting to be that "unique butterfly" because you need drama and attention in your life.
Funny thing is you try to say "you can state your opinion" but then go on about how "wrong" my opinion is and act like your opinion is entirely correct. Meanwhile everything you fight against isn't an opinion it's just cold hard fact and science.
As for your idiotic "Science is always changing" thing, while that's true, it doesn't mean suddenly you get to wake up one day like "SUDDENLY SCIENCE IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BECAUSE I SAY SO!!"... there's literally no scientific data to back up anything you say. If anything, there's only data AGAINST what you say.. but you don't like that so you'll just ignore it and act like it doesn't exist.
In the end, trans people should have their own section, app, and/or dating site. It'll give them a place to be themselves and find people that are actually attracted to them rather than forcing an entire section of people that'll never be attracted to it. If you're a "trans man" I will NEVER be attracted to you.. I'm a gay man you don't have what I want. You can keep idiotically calling it "transphobia" all you want but I won't suddenly be like "OH.. SUDDENLY I'M ATTRACTED TO YOU!!" Stop trying to gaslight people into accepting you and being attracted to you and actually make good arguments. Just be yourself in your own place and eventually you'll find someone.
@Eventide Yikes !!! you thought you ate that ??? your transphobia is showing . You can state your opinion without trying to dehumanize a group that already faces systemic oppression.
Trans ppl do deserve their own spaces and they have apps for that (Fiorry, Tinder, even Facebook Dating) However most trans women STARTED on grindr just like most gay men bc it was literally all we had!!!! Most of these new apps are just now converting to a more inclusive platform for trans people.
Also you do understand that being trans is an identity not a sexual orientation.. Therefore intersectionality exists you can be trans and bi, trans and straight, trans and gay, ect so when you say “Gay as in homosexual male” it really doesnt give.
“If you're a "trans man" you're not a man. You don't have a penis, testes, or anything that genetically makes you a man.”
yeah its giving transphobia.. genes and chromosomes do determine sex however genitalia DOES NOT . intersex people (which may fall under the trans umbrella) can have both vagina and testes and be assigned male at birth . or they may have a penis and ovaries it can vary on a spectrum just like sexual orientation. Everything is not black and white. You sound like the people who say trans women arent real women bc they cant bleed and have kids but then that would mean women born without a uterus or have PCOS are “not real women” too ? right because genitalia does not determine sex or gender . literally chromosomes are the only thing that does . Ever heard that we all start off as female embryo then are sex determined 6 weeks after by just the switch of one gonad . Science is fun because its always changing.
Anyway as i said before you can state your opinions without being transphobic. Which i know is tough because 99% of the world has internalized transphobia (including trans people) its just the way it is . Peace
David Portillo commented
Yes, This needs to happen now! I been so fustrated ! With trans replying to me as if I would ever be interested! It's just like a straight women replying to me a gay guy! I have no interest! I am gay ! I only want gay men. I don't have anything against trans people! But it's not fair to share the site designed for Gay men! The are just like straight replying to gays it's actually not right or fair to me. I talk with many who agree and feel as I do! That why they should have there own category that gives them there own space for people who have those interest! It really disgusted me to see female appearing on Grindr! I will never be interested in any type of female Iam Gay!