Trans
Not transphobic but there has to be a fine line between gays looking for gays and guys looking for fem/trans. It seems more than half of the profiles I look at are looking for trans only, and this is very annoying being gay... A new app, or strong filters are necessary. Please don't make me stop using my favorite app due to such a silly reason
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Cody commented
Guy Will,
A lot of transgender people have said it is transohibic to assume a transgender person is gay. Transgender is about gender identity and not sexual orientation. Grindr was created for gay men, given that fact why should women, cisgender or transgender, be on an app for gay men? If gay trans-men are allowed on I think there should be tags of pre-surgery or post-surgery. Users should not be allowed to report other users if they ask if a trans-person if they completed the operations. I’m not trans and I have been asked if I have any surgical scars or scars from injuries as well as height, weight, shoe size, last time I went to the bathroom among other questions. If a person is going to use Grindr they need to understand people will ask various questions some might seem invasive, but asking questions is not hate speech.
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Guy Will commented
I think a lot of the comments here have lost the thread. There are three issues here:
1) a way to filter out all the “straight” men looking for “trans only” (seems a simple self-select profile option)
2) trans people absolutely have a place here, but let’s include the necessary profile and subsequent filters adaptable and expansive for all
3) If you’re gonna make people pay for things; make the: anon, trans-only, straight, “fem only” pay more! There is a lot of space under the rainbow, but the homophobic, fetishized “trans only”, or the female sex workers hoping to catch the str8 guy are overtaking the platform. -
Vers Play commented
I agree, but would argue that it's not a "fine line" between gay guys looking for other gay guys for sex, and "straight" guys looking for trans girls.
There's a huge fucking chasm between those two things, and forcing them to play together just makes no sense. -
Cody commented
Trisha Mendoza,
Take your own advice. Grindr is an app that was created for gay men to meet gay men. Yet you’re telling gay men to be patient and make their own app. Gay men did that already and we are saying that to the trans people and those seeking trans that are invading our space.
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Cody commented
Kelly Smith,
Please join us in the real world. I have been messaged by trans profiles and profiles looking for trans despite the fact that my profile has the tag masc on it. Also I can only see a limited number of profiles if a growing number is trans or looking for trans it is the same as shrinking that number. So yes it does affect me.
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Trisha Mendoza commented
Make a way. Patient is always a virtue.
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Kelly Smith commented
Most trans put that right on the profile. They not bothering you and the guys looking for them aren't really looking for you
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Mike Ellison commented
It’s a silly reason because you’re making that way
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Roy Horst commented
I used to block those profiles but you can't do that any more.
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Roy Horst commented
So we can only hide these profiles if we pay. Grindr is turning into a lousy app. Thankfully there are others.
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Richard
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1. It is not at all transphobic that a gay man might not find trans -identifying persons sexually appealing.
2.; nor is it transphobic the he might find them sexually repulsive.
3. It is not transphobic to find fake profiles created BY GRINDR to be genuinely fraudulent. Grindr prohibits users to perpetuate this sort of fraud. Many, (if not most,) trans -identifying profiles are fake profiles which are AI bots created by Grindr.
Conclusion: in the interest of user safety and security, and out of respect for the men who pay for this site, the ability to block trans-identifying and trans - seeking persons is the ONLY logical and respectful option. It respects those who simply do not find either post surgical MTF or FTM individuals, as well as trans identifying pre surgical individuals, (aka drag queens and cross - dressers,) to be sexually desirable partners. At the same time it allows users to avoid the fraudulent fake profiles that permeate this category. The notion that this is transphobic is a lie propagated by people who are acting as if it's ok to be trans, but not OK to be gay. -
Cody commented
IKnowIts Pretty,
I’d rather get over another guy which is why I have grindr. Although that is getting increasingly hard since grindr is full of women and straight men. That’s the point of this thread grindr is cutting out the group is was created to serve.
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IKnowIts Pretty commented
Cody, bud, you got to get over yourself and read a book
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Cody commented
Omaro Schreuder,
You do realize we are trying to treat the cause. Men are like bloodhounds, they will sniff out a trail and follow it. So if men know there are women, those who identify as women, those with the anatomy of a woman but identify as a man, or those who want to dress up as women while physically being a man on grindr the men will come on grindr. If there are no trans female profiles then there would be no profiles seeking only trans females. It’s the same as you wouldn’t go to a grocery store to buy a tv because you know it’s not available there. Do you follow the logic?
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Omaro Schreuder commented
Imo we need to refocus the conversation and aversion towards so called "straight" cis-men that are looking for trans/fem people. We need discourage those men in our space not attack our trans members of our community. These AI characters are a result of those types of men in our spaces.We need to treat the cause not solve the consequence.
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Cody commented
M Kelly
Interesting thought you have there mostly because of how flawed it is. Just because someone is transsexual does not mean they are gay. A trans-man is someone born a female that wants to become a man. That means there is a good chance a trans-man does not have a penis but in fact has a vagina. Since they were born a woman they would not suck a dick like a gay man but like a straight woman they may take it in the ass or the vagina, flip side if they don’t have a penis they cannot top. Even if the trans-man has completed all the surgeries that changes the anatomy but does very little to the physiology. Meaning they may have a penis but they cannot get a natural erections or have an ejaculation in the same way someone born as a man can.
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M Kelly commented
If you got a dick your a man even a trans they have the same rights as a so called gay man a trans sucks a dick like a gay man takes it in the ass like "gay" man trans is gay as any other man he is more gay than the gay man :)
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M Kelly commented
Your right it's silly we're all gay you don't own it
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William Mace commented
To add to this. We are now seeing lots of straight men looking for Transgender and straight women looking for Transgender men...wtf?
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Raj Gomes commented
Fuck me