joshua david serrao,

Grindr is for sex. That is obvious. If you want to change the entire gay community, it ain't happening through an APP. And no, we aren't going to change. Not tomorrow, not 10 years from now.

Pretty obvious as some have mentioned this app exist to make money not to support the LGBTQ+ community , after all capitalism. no point in all this discussion both sides have good points of argument but one cannot truly know each and every person's personal intention . We are not gonna solve racism in a day period , infact I don't even think of hating people who are racist it's not their choice thier upbringing was like that and it's not easy to mold adult minds. This thread is a moot discussion .

Secondly the issues we are raising discussing here should be talked about only after we sort out our own self issues and that was the rant all about to the guy who didn't get my point, make yourself the best version you perceive and remove all your biases etc in the end looking back you are not gonna regret your life choices to people who hold onto their narrow mindset will be on this app forever.

Ps nothing wrong in being a slut, just don't be cringe about it by fetishizing dick .

Some of you sound really angry, on either side. People are not going to respect your opinion if you sound angry and make wild, rambling, accusations. I'd suggest just stay calm and present your case and support it with rational arguments. We are in a subtopic concerning the ethnicity filter. It would be more effective if you keep to this topic and argue for or against. That's it, not how many guys you've had, not that everyone on grindr is a slut, not that everyone is a flake, not that your race is being crapped on. Grindr can't change that. Focus on what the company can change in the app, and why you think a change should be made, and you're more likely to get a result. But maybe not the one you want.

joshua david serrao,

It'll help, in the future, if you provide coherent comments. You simply sound unhinged, and I don't know too many people who would take that seriously. It'll be more effective if you focus on the subtopic you are replying to: the ethnicity filter. And why you think it should or should not be returned.

Everyone of Grindr is a f**king hypocrite. Everyone is a flake , everyone pretends like the world revolves around them. it's the 21st century and we have folks with blank profiles. Why do we have expiry photo and profile viewed options it's such a bad feature. There are profiles which literally will mention every other race except one, why not just come out as say I'm a racist. Then we have profile which say versatile is not a position it's a fucking compromise and the you look at the dudes profile and you can tell why, some people don't even know what their privilege is. And then we have pornstars who can't even stand for representing their own race. Another category is folks who will spread their legs for anyone only at 3 am in the morning like as if that's when they get cured of their racism and bigotry. Guys who can't even have balls to have honest conversations but use the block feature as if they just had to encounter scum . met too many folks can tell everyone has skeletons in their closet no one on Grindr is a saint. Ps I include myself in this. Grindr features are more culturally harmfully and have created us as a group of really bad folks. I mean media presents us as such gods wonderful children but really as a member of this community I can say for certain we are worse than our straight friends. And grindr has just become an enabler for these traits. Get over yourselves guys .

Have you guys considered the option where there is no option to mention ones race. Why even have that. So many profile either eliminate it or lie or put under category mixed or others . I mean let's not make it a discussion even why talk about this filter if there is no information key. It will make us all one single race. Ofcourse won't solve some folks issues but hey at the end of the day I think you cannot expect another person to respect you when your own race doesn't accept you. Think about that.

@Beeswax business People like you always make me laugh. You start out immediately like "100%" this or that. You try to take everything to extreme limits to try and create a point. Who at any point said the filter doesn't get used for racist purposes? Nobody ever made that claim, but by not having it does that cause that same person to suddenly not be racist? Not at all.. the only thing it does is force them to see you, who they don't want to see. That's like saying if you go to look at gay porn you're forced to see straight porn. Seeing women's vaginas everywhere when you have absolutely no want to see it. Does that suddenly make you attracted to women? Not at all.. if anything, it'll make you even more disgusted by it.

You also try to act like the majority of people that utilize an ethnicity filter do it for racist purposes. You also even try to say how if someone excludes everyone but their race suddenly that's acceptable?? What exactly is your definition of racist? Because it definitely doesn't fit the actual definition. Again, this is something people like you constantly do though. You're against it, but for it, but against it, and you keep flipping between them as you deem fit.

As for your bit about saying we exclude because of prejudices, who again at any point ever said or even barely mentioned that? I'm not sexually attracted to black guys. Does that suddenly mean I'm racist against them? Not at all. I can talk to them, I can interact with them, I can be around them, etc. I have quite a few as friends as well. The same thing applies again to women. Just because I'm gay, does that mean I'm sexist and can't be around women? Not at all.

Like I said, you can keep trying to take things to extremes to win your idiotic arguments but it'll never work. You sound like an idiotic child trying to force your viewpoint on everyone else. If you want to sleep with anything that moves, go right ahead. That doesn't mean suddenly everyone has to be that way and have no standards, type, etc.

Oh and your part about saying "you blacks" are being "shat on" right now.. stop lying to yourself. Stop trying to use that as a weapon against everyone. THAT is why racism exists, because people like you keep using it as weapons to get what you want. Do you know how many black people I see like you that use racism daily? They go into a store, they don't get their way, they immediately go "It's because I'm black, isn't it?!" creating racism where it didn't exist whatsoever just so they'll get given their way. That's the ONLY reason you even bothered to bring up your race. The hilarious thing here is it's really the white men lately that get "shat on." People constantly now are making fun of us and then trying to be like "SEE! HOW'S IT FEEL?!" Like they can justify being racist, but if we do anything suddenly it's extremely wrong.

You even try to add at the end that ONLY white people can be racist.. which is absolutely hilarious that you'd even show off your idiocy to that level. That bit you mention about not being given any part in society? Yeah that's meant for you. We don't have any need or room for people as idiotic as you.

This thread is nonsense. This app is nonsense. Delete the app. It’s useless without the filters. No need to discuss any further. I don’t need some millennial to tell me I am racist cause I get to choose who I am attracted. I don’t need to be told what’s normal by a bunch of kids who can’t function without their phones. Enough. Really just find yourselves another hobby stop telling everyone what to think and do and deal with all the trauma you are so proud of flaunting everywhere else first.

@beeswax business

Could sexual attraction be based on prejudice and/or racism? Sure it can and is likely due in part to long-term systemic issues, but also due to male sexuality in that we need to be physically attracted to our partners for any kind of healthy sex/relationship to work. Does removing an ethnicity filter on a hookup app solve that problem? Not in any meaningful way. It just adds frustration, creates resentment and wastes everyone's time. Besides, this is not the place to fight the systemic battle, as it comes across as POLICING PEOPLE'S BEDROOM/DATING ACTIVITIES which creates a slippery slope back to eras (at least in the US, some still apply in other countries) with laws that ban homosexuality, interracial marriage, etc.

Beeswax Business,

Did anyone on this site make the claim that you are asking about? Even if there are a few people or many people out there who are prejudicial, do you think that because you are forced to show up on their screen, that they will date you? Do you think that's going to change their racial prejudices? Do you think that's going to help you get a date? I don't see how, but I'm open to hearing how.

Oh, about your earlier comment, we don't care how many different people of all
races took your seed, either. This is a forum, if we wanted to hear your smut stories, we'd go to a porn site, or ask you about it. That's a real civilized conversation you have going on there.

@Beeswax Business not everyone who rejects say a Chinese man on Grindr is doing it because they’re not attracted to Asians. Some people will be racist and reject for that reason.

But NOT having the filter isn’t going to make someone fuck a Chinese man if they’re racist against Chinese men or just don’t find Chinese men sexually attractive.

All that a filter will do is make it easier for people to do EXACTLY what they’re doing now and that’s scrolling past all the people they don’t find attractive be that old, young, fat, skinny, Asian, black, white, whatever.

@Don Garretson: you have described it perfectly.

Unfortunately some people will be hysterical at what you said and think not having a sexual attraction to a type = being racist. But those deluded snowflakes should be given no part in our society any longer.

Just like homosexuals are not attracted to females, not everyone is attracted to every other race. It is not always a racist reason, it's more of the same thing as not being attracted to your grandmother.
There are people who are attracted to very old men or young men, fat or skinny, dark or light skinned, etc. We don't control who we are attracted to (age, race, height, weight, etc.) anymore then we control being heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual.
We need the filter so we can find guys who may be "the one" without going through guys who 100% definitely are not "the one".

It’s insane that I pay for a service and you dictate to me what you is best for who? For
What? I pay. MFing premium not at all cheap fee to be essentially restricted to what you THINK I should be looking at?

You suck at life because you are just causing things to back fire.

Good intentions but it’s the most I’ll conceived imposed restriction. Yea man. I pay a lot to have half the grid filled with people I have no interest in because guess what folks, I decide where my loads go. Not you at all ever. It’s MY BODY MY CHOICE HOW DARE YOU BE SO WILLFULLY NEGLIGENT OF MY ENTITLED CHOICES AND DECISIONS. HOW OPPRESSIVE AND REALLY SELFISH. FIT IT. DID I MENTION IM A VERY SUCCESSFUL PROSECUTOR IN THE STATE OF CONNECTICUT. AND IM LICKING MY LIPS AT THE OPPORTUNITY TO INVESTIGATE THESE UNCONSTITUTIONAL REACTIVE RESTRICTIONS

Bjr. Pouvez vous remettre le tri par rapport ethnique pour affiner les recherche svp merci

1. How about we get rid of block and just have a not interested button just like the tap button everyone seems to hate.

2. Picture moderators be a little more observant about you know the underage people on this app. I'm getting sick and tired of chewing these underage kids out for their lack of understanding of what consequences really mean when they screw a man's life up just because they're horny.
3. Restore the stupid ethnicity filter. It's not racist it's a preference there's a huge difference just because these woke obsessed idiots like to tell you oh that's racist. They think everything is racist because they have an agenda.
4. I'm sorry but you're as have gotten ridiculous. Back in the day it was 5 seconds you press the x it was gone I could deal with that. You have to literally watching 60 second commercial bags and dragons and even after that commercial ends at The x doesn't pop up and then of course Google Play will pop up making the ad super annoying and goddamn aggravating. Yes I understand ads keep it free but you guys need to work on the balance on that because this is not ridiculous it's bombardment. I'm about to just not use this anymore because it's super pissing me off.
5. How about when a little b**** who got denied someone's dick decides to get all the witchy until you guys oh he's a drug dealer and then you ban his profile without investigation what the hell is that all about?! Is this the me too movement for grinder or what ridiculous enough as it is.

And no offense I'm all for trans rights, so once they have that change done they are women which means they shouldn't be on this app. If they have a problem with that that means they have an agenda and they do not want their cock but they want to eat it too. Instant block every time one messages me because I'm not attracted to guys dressing like women I'm attracted to masculinity.

I don't know about this whole China owning you guys but y'all guys need to get your s*** together because everyone's talking crap and you know what you're going to lose your whole f****** fan base and then you're going to go bye-bye just like Jackd or hornet

WHEN GRINDR is finally going to restore the filter?! It is voted here after all the 2nd biggest and most important issue here and a very large majority demands its restauration!

GRINDR! Please ANSWER!

@john dough: It’s the same for me. I live in one of the largest and most affluent black counties in the US. I’m white. I moved here on purpose (too many white people make me nervous lol). I’m constantly being told that I am “obviously racist” from folks that have never talked to or met me. I was married (twice) to an AA woman (same woman, longer story) and have three beautiful mixed race children (they are all adults now). I’m constantly met with profiles from AA men that literally say “BLACK MEN ONLY” or “BROTHERS ONLY” or “NO WHITE MEN” — but *I* am the racist? Racism DOES go both ways. I’m an open minded guy that runs a company promoting diversity and equal opportunities…but no one will give me a shot to find out. All they see is “white”

I agree! As a black person , that ethnicity filter gives me a better experience when I wanna hookup. I generally am open to all races but many white gays in America are horribly racist. Now since hate speech is closely monitored in profiles the new tactic is to just ignore you like you don’t exist. They take up tons of space and is the worst cock block . I can avoid this by filtering and talking to other black guys .

1. It is not racist to prefer an ethnicity. (If it were, all homosexuals are also misogynists.) 2. Even if it were, people have other reasons for the filter. For example, an expat/tourist in a foreign country, who isn't there for the sex trade. Unpreferred POCs are not going to get more attention on the app bc of this modification. People just block them. Some POCs (see 2) in foreign countries would also like to speak only to people who know their language. I've been rejected by a Chinese guy because of this, and it is understandable. This "surely, it's racist" thinking is like an Orwellian novel combined with the movie "idiocracy." You're doing something "noble," but in fact you are forcing something on people who cannot change their preferences anyway. It is juvenile thinking. Also, I wonder if there are even some religions that mandate a same ethnicity partner.