Distance Reciprocity - users should only get to see other users’ distance if they are showing their own
Unless located in a country with anti-gay legislation, users hiding their distance should not get to see distance on other profiles. This would inspire a much-needed culture of fair play and reciprocity on the app, while also incentivizing members to stop hiding and stop wasting people’s time. (Not to mention that with distance shown on more profiles, browsing would be easier and the overall user experience would improve.)
people who don't show their distance r not hiding it / it's off for a reason / i have been tracked several times by people chatting and driving / i literally have had people knock on my door
Vengeful Toaster commented
yes I would love for this to exist
Oh THIS. All the time I get "You seem close" or "Oh only 600m away" from someone with their distance hidden.
What am I supposed to say to that? "if you say so"?
Being able to access everybody's Distance by paying for Xtra is a silly idea. Everybody should have the right to drop out of view with a click, switching their Distance off when or if they feel unsafe with visibility in any environment. They should simply lose the visibility of others in their area for having that choice.
Distance has to be hidden at certain times for safety reasons. There's no getting around that fact, however .. we should all have the option to remain unsearchable to those who hide their Distance.
I'm sick of being pestered or baited into chat by out-of-towners who have their distance hidden. Its a shit move, and i state in Profile that i don't want their messages.
I think i should be able to hide my entire profile from everyone who operates with their Distance switched OFF.
If security is the concern, then at least make it where people that have their distance hidden always show "Less than 5 miles" or "Greater than 5 miles", "50 miles", "100 miles", etc.. I'm tired of being bothered by users and bots thousands of miles away. There needs to be some degree of information involved, even if not as specific.
If you are on here... Be on here... Distance gamers are just as bad as Ghosters and Catfish!!
As someone who has been stalked before, this sounds like an awful idea. I have my distance turned off for my safety and privacy.
I would, however, be down with a system that only shows distances as “less than a mile.”
I have my distance switched off due to creeps getting too close to me. If the distance measurement stopped at 1KM and from theres just shows "less then a kM away" I would be happy to have it enabled.
Let's put it in another way.
I have chosen to show my distance.
I want that everyone be free to choose whether they want to display their distance or not.
But I don't want that they see my distance when they have chosen to not show their own.
In another way, I want to be able to select that I want my distance shown in general for everyone, except for that people that have chosen to not show their own.
It's a reciprocity matter guys!
There seems to be a lot of confusion about this request. It is not asking that any user be required to show his distance unless he wants to show it. What it asks is for a way for User X to limit who sees his distance to other users whose distance he (User X) can see. It's reciprocal. It's saying "I don't want you to be able to see my distance unless I can see yours." It's actually a very reasonable feature request.
Disagree...It’s an individual’s right to disclose, or not disclose, their location/distance. If someone is interested, or one is curious, that info can be covered during a chat if one simply asks the question. “Where are you located”. Yet again, that person’s chiice to disclose that or not. It really comes down to one’s personal safety and their thoughts about it. who knows if someone is on here to lure people into a situation that would result in a hate crime, or worse? Seems a small thing to make an issue out of.
Always show a user's distance for Unlimited users
Jay Whitsitt commented
Letting others see your distance actually sends your exact location to the other users' devices in order to calculate your distance to show them. It's fairly easy to use a third-party tool to see that location, which is then a huge privacy issue.
Bad idea. Sounds like you are not successful using the app and want to blame it on external reasons instead of looking within or realizing that this app is not appropriate for your needs and that you need to move on.
it’s an individual choice, and leads to something to discuss in direct online conversation
allow a guy to be concerned about not wanting to associate with people in his own neighbourhood - he could be politely avoiding jerks in his own way
if you are genuinely keen on a guy than you’ll go the distance
unless you have an imposition to commuting
like if you’re in a rural area you’re prepared to do the yards. If you’re in a city or town, the profiles that show on your screen are obviously within a eg 20km proximity; is that all too hard? I think it comes down to laziness and individual cater-to-me selfishness to expect a dude to be within 20 meters away of you, all day long
Because grinder has such a low reputation it could be rectified with compulsory distance unless you retain full membership status to turn it off with the only exception of trial membership
Show actual and not areal distance. Example 5 minute walk or 5 minute drive by car