Allison Gattone
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I understand the frustration if you’re a gay man using Grindr and your grid is filling up with people you’re not interested in. Better gender filters would solve that.
But “remove women from Grindr” is too simplistic.
My Grindr profile says Woman, but I don’t actually identify as a woman. I’m genderqueer and very feminine-presenting. I dress like a woman, I have female anatomy, and I know most people are going to perceive me as female. I chose “Woman” on Grindr because it was the clearest practical way to communicate what someone is physically going to encounter and to distinguish myself from trans women. It isn’t a complete description of my gender identity.
Grindr is also one of the few places where I feel like I can exist exactly as I am without having to explain or justify every contradiction between my body, presentation, sexuality, and identity.
You absolutely should be able to filter me out if I’m not what you’re looking for. I’m not asking gay men to be attracted to me, and I wouldn’t want someone messaging me who isn’t interested.
But there’s a huge difference between saying, “I don’t want to see women or feminine people on my grid,” and saying, “People like you shouldn’t be allowed on Grindr.”
Give people better filters. Let users choose who they want to see.
Just don’t assume that seeing “Woman” on a profile tells you the entire story of who that person is or why they belong in a queer space.