“Not interested” tap option
Taps. Currently we have the flame, devil and friendly hello tap option. Why don’t we have a “not interested” tap option too? A lot of people have problems with being ignored by others when someone isn’t interested in them. However, people also cannot be bothered to reject others with words - it’s too much effort. This update to the tap mechanism could kill two birds with one stone. It makes it less time/energy consuming to reject people with just a click of a button. AND the guys who feel invalidated when being ignored, can get an answer - instead of pestering folk for answers. I believe this is pretty efficient and is better for everyone’s mental health.
There's alot of trans and cis women on here that I am not interested in especially cis women. In order to block them you need to go into their account and they can see that on their "viewed you" thing. There should be a way to block them without actually viewing their account. Maybe if you hold their picture in the nearby grid it can bring up an option bar to block or mute them. Preferably block.
Allow for criteria-based auto-block (I.e. I can choose specific profiles criteria like age, ethnicity, circumcising, looking for, identify as, masc/fem, etc.) that become automatically blocked from messaging me or seeing my profile. I spend most of my time on the app having to delete msgs and block ppl I’m not interested in.
Erica Bell commented
But keep Blocked option...some I dont want to deal with.
Aaron Stowell commented
I think it's awfully harsh. If someone doesn't respond in an appropriate amount of time (not two minutes after you send your message), put your big boy pants on and move on.
Craig Bryce commented
There is nothing more frustrating than sending someone a message and getting no response -
or chatting with someone for a couple of texts- then they suddenly stop replying but are still online
We have all been there at some point - and it’s so annoying..
and because everyone is online for different reasons, there is no way for us to really know why they are not replying -
Are they: busy/ not interested/ interested - but have already made plans// youre not their type but they don’t like using the “block ” option/ they just can’t be bothered replying
One way that could really help take some of the guesswork and frustration out of the situation -
When there is no response -
You could send a “pop up” text
This would appear on the recipients screen - showing the various answer options,
This pop up would stay in the centre of the screen until the person answers..
It wouldn't solve every issue, but at least it might let the sender know if the other person actually likes them In the1st place…
Or that the recipient is now busy and can’t continue the chat, but are interested in chatting another time .
And t would also be a better way to let someone know you are not interested or that they are not your “type”, - much better than just having the “block”option
Ultimately this would help people be a bit more thoughtful towards others,giving everyone a basic level of courtesy and respect from the start -
Blocking does not work. You block then they're back after a while, sometimes within a couple of hours. There is a guy who keeps messaging me and I am not interested, I keep blocking and they're back and messaging me again. It is actually not very safe and enables harassment.
Gustavo Alisson commented
Tenho raiva, nojo dessa função, serve apenas para incomodar. É uma espécie de interesse fraca, parece que são incapazes de escrever a mensagem, incomoda muito essa função. O Grindr deveria respeitar os usuários que não gostam desse TAP e colocar a final t habitar oh desligar. Obrigar todos a usar não é mediano. Tem muito tempo que muitas pessoas reclama, não quer e o aplicativo não respeita, não atende as solicitações, fingindo que não sabe! Vou parar de usar porque me incomoda muito!! Odeio TAP!!
Guy Nutz commented
I agree with your sentiment. However, I also personally use block to block the countless individuals for whom I know there is absolutely no chance of connection. Far too often, block is used to catfish people. They expose you, get your pictures, find out who you are, send bogus pictures themselves, and then immediately block you... Often after toying with you. It's a terrible practice used by losers... But being able to block people that you know is absolutely not a match is a good thing :-)
Biman Pelt commented
Has been on Grindr for some time now. In itself it is a fantastic app but the block option is terrible. You converse with each other, exchange information, forward photos and so on. You make yourself vulnerable and suddenly you are blocked. You can no longer respond and you have lost all information. How depressing is this. It destroys your confidence. Why not "not interested" instead? Hopefully the block option will also be removed soon.
Robert Been, great thoughts and ideas! I always appreciate someone saying 'thanks, but no thanks rather than just ignoring me. Yeah, it's a drag to get this response from a guy you really wanted to bang, but at least I know where I stand with him. Move on.
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you'd rather we verbally reject or / and ignore you whenever you message someone?
and you mean to imply there aren't any people *you're* not interested in talking to / dealing with?
Aqui Estoy commented
This is not to vote; this is to be DONE.
Users are abusing of this option when they are not interested in someone and they just block with no reason.
Your responsibility is to make this option for available only for strong reasons and not childish attitudes.
I suppose you have a clear concept of this app not to be used to promote hate! Specially in the community.
Maybe another idea is that you could allow people to know how mich you are interested in them on a scale of 0 to 5. 0 means not at all, and five means super into them.
I would rate profiles and people would rate mine.
And then I could search by guys that are super into me, or kind of into me 3,4).
Besides I’m not interested button, I’d like to see another button that says something like “not tonight but maybe another nigh” or an “ask me again” button.
The fact of the matter is, a lot of people are just plain rude - if I’m not interested in the guy, I’ll let them know. If a guy is not interested in me, why doesn’t he let me know? This button would make it easier for me to know people aren’t into me versus they’re just not into me that night.
This is a great idea. The people who seem to dislike the idea don’t seem to understand what this person is saying.
If I write to a guy, and he doesn’t write back, is it because he never read the message? Or because he’s not interested? I have no way of knowing. How do I know this? Because people write to me, because Grindr doesn’t sort new emails to the top, sometimes I don’t see an email message for 2 to 3 weeks! Turn it in late, sometimes I read a message, and I can’t reply to it because I was about to sign off, and I don’t want to write back and say hi and start a new conversation or hi, I will chat another day.
Sometimes I’ve read messages from guys I am into, but I don’t have time to respond, so I wait until the next day and then I go back to find that message and the guys blocked me because he assumed that I didn’t respond right away that I wasn’t interested. This button would help so much. If people don’t like it, they don’t have to use it rather than attacking those who think the idea is great.
Angel 1964 commented
The profiles which are marked as " not interested " should be hide from the grid
Ashis Mondal commented
Yes please solve
Holmes Holmes and Holmes commented
Frustration by wasting too much time blocking profiles ONE-BY-ONE of guys, it's or whatever their flavor they call themselves this year, that we definitely know, we are not the slightest bit interested in, to narrow down and filter the ones that we are... By then you don't give a crap and you just sign off
I mean a simple sorry not match would be enough tho , with no further explanation. sometimes it follows with a block or just alright both parties move on
Patrick the ENTP commented
I love this idea 💡 it will really help with letting people down cause it's really hard to let people know that your not nterested I have talk too people knowing i wasn't ever going too give them the time of day and wasted my time and there's in life and time is the most valuable asset in the world so i definitely say there should be a not interested button....