Allow for tags (interests, fetishes, etc) to better search
Tags are a great idea as long as you allow everyone to search by tags!!
Would love this....Most guys in my area are not into kissing...but I am, so it would be nice to filter out who is and who isn't.
Derek from Michigan, USA commented
Allow users to create whatever hashtag they wish to describe what they want, looking for, get into (or don’t get into) and allow users to search for other users by whatever hashtag they enter in to search by
STOP REMOVING MY HASHTAGS
If there would be a way to search with a specific set of tags I could find my type better . For instance if I input #high&horny I can see other people that are into it too. Example of other hashtags could be #bigcock, #nipples, #hairy #hairyarmpits or #nodrugs etc. To help choosing the hashtags there should be also a list displaying the most used ones so we don’t end up using one hashtag which is not very popular instead of another one that means the same thing but is used a lot: for example if I want to search for #hairyarmpit but the most used hashtag is actually #hairyarmpits with the s of the plural I should be able to see that and select the most used one. A little like when you put the hashtag on tik toks and it says the amount of videos under that hashtag.
Also the hashtag should be visible on the profile but just used as tools to find a profile. For example if I use the hashtag #hairy on my profile I don’t want people to see that is on my profile but I want people interested in hairy guy to be able to find my profile
I’m not into guys with piercings anywhere besides the ears. A filter for that would be great!
Reece Griffith commented
Im very into fisting. This is unheard of in my area (smaller city in the south). I dont really want to display this on my profile. It would be cool if we could select kinks and such to match with other guys into the same things, even better if this was only visible in case of matching kinks.
Nice to see so many guys asking for the frot option. Too bad Grindr hasn't bothered to address this simple feature yet even though it was first suggested about 3 years back.
Agreed. It would help a lot.
Another thing that would help is a way to filter out people who say mind numbing things like “This would promote wrongful body shaming behaviors within the gay culture. We need to put an end to this kind of thing. This idea is inappropriate,”. That would be super helpful!
P.S. Scott F. I flagged your comment. How’s that for inappropriate?
Also like a curiosity and such, or three-way or group
Definitely needs implementing, as the only other option to anal is "do not show" which makes others think that you're choosing to not display that you're a power bottom.
But the term "side" is not widespread so would just cause confusion IMO. It should be a simple thing to add "Oral Only" to the list of positions and a term for frot/JO or similar.
Just get rid of Tribes. It's stupid.
so if you do not enjoy Frottage but consider yourself a Side then you are saying there needs to be one for Side and also Frot since you are saying there are people who consider themselves Sides but do not like Frot, per your last statement, yes?
Being a side by definition of the term does include a form of Frot - rubbing/grind. So you would want an option for those like you who consider themselves Sides but do not like Frot, if I understand your language correctly?
So if Side works for you, then it should also be fitting to also include those who would like to use Frot as well. The umbrella is already big enough.
Again my main point is about the coding and the issue here in the chat should be around Grindr the semantics aside, no pun intended.
As per my last with all derivatives they have now for penetrative sex then they should have the same for those who prefer non-penetrative.
And again there have been others in this string that would not fit into side and they have a single focus so they should also be allowed to have their choice as well.
I bring that up because I have read many of the other stings beyond frot where some have asked that there also be an option for those who or only Oral focused, et al.
It is not complicated. Or course it may seem complicated to discuss and put down but once all of this is coded into a program it is not an issue. Other sites have done it, so Grindr should be able to do is the main point here - to have more options on the subscription.
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It really doesn’t need to be half as complicated.... just ‘side’
But I’m not frot-vers lol
Vers is both top and bottom, I’m neither.
And I don’t like frottage.
None if those words apply, side however is literally just saying your neither too, bottom, or vers.
so then Matt you are Frot/Vers as you said you are not into anal sex and prefer non-penetrative sex.
That may work for you to say just "Side" but not everyone is there...just as there is for penetrative sex options Top, Top/Vers, Vers, Btm/vers, Btm those same parameters exist for those who are focused on Frot or this newer term Side is evolving as a known phrasing.
It is very simple and it is known and understood so if someone says Frot/Top-Vers no one is going to mistake that to mean anal. Alas people do also have words in their profile to support and expand as well, so it is not as if people will not take the time to write (though I do see being new on this platform many do not write anything) but that is to each their own.
There are other sites that have done this so it is not a difficult thing to do and they charge far less than Grindr such as the Frot dating site.
Alas one can use the terms again that have been around for quite some time to distinguish between Greek vs Frot so someone that is into penetrative sex would be:
Greek: Active/Vers conversely Frot: Active/Vers. (if you prefer not to use the words Top/Bottom or then one could use Dom/Sub i.e. Greek-Dom/Vers or Frot-Dom/Vers
It is not complicated but there are many with varying degrees of preference and as many have pointed out for the price point of Grindr they should be able to code in these options if other sites surely and charge a 80% less than they do can do it!
It is no less complicated than doing all the many questions on okcupid.
But if you’re a frot/top you can still say top?
I want to say side as I’m not a top or a bottom, because I don’t like anal.
Currently other than not answering the question there’s nothing in there I can use lol
I think it’s better to have this bigger umbrella term that covers everyone who’s not into anal sex. Then at least it’s a conversation starter... other wise you’ll have to list frot/wank/oral/voyeur... and it gets a bit much.
@Matt: Yes I hear you. My only reasoning for saying Frot is that is not just about rubbing. Yes the word is that but it has a far more history and folks know the word and have used than "side" which would have it more well understood by more people, as well as those use the term G0y inside of the Frot community as well as a preference.
As well, I love it too and so I hear you on the terminology and at this point Grindr at least adding the option I would not care, just that they do it!
So by your definition "Side" = Frot/Vers?
And this is the confusion why I suggested if adding Frot then it also have the options for Frot/Top, Frot/Vers, etc...
And aso I have also seen in the listing there are also those who say they are primarily Oral so for those folks they can have similar options.
It may sound like alot but that is only for the user when signing up to have the options, at least it will be easy for the viewer to only see what they prefer and the more options at least cuts down on sending or receiving messages from those whom one might not connect on a dating or initimate level if when it were to reach the level.
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That’s ok, we can disagree :-)
Frottage is literally rubbing, it’s a sexual act in itself. I don’t like it enjoy it. Side isn’t a sexual act, it’s simple stating you’re neither a top or a bottom.
I feel Frot or Frottage is better than "Side" since "side" is such a new term. Frot/Frottage has been around much longer - has more history. And there is even a dating website "FrotFrat" that also has in its title for those of us seeking dating etc options. Yes it would be great for Grindr to have that option of Frot.
Using "Side" also plays into the whole Top/Bottom duality whereas at least Frot has a terminology and historical context from the French word Frotter.
I think ‘side’ kind if covered everything non-anal, there's no need to confuse it even more.