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Hi, thank you so much for posting this. I’m 23, gay, and am tired of receiving unsolicited nudes despite my profile explicitly saying I don’t consent. Consent should be enforced and practiced with all sexual exchanges, whether it’s online or in-person. I have had Grindr guys curse me out, saying the most bizarre, cruel things you could imagine, just because my bio says I don’t nudes or hook ups. This is ridiculous, and I know many other gays feel the same way as me but haven’t spoken out about it since sex is such a cornerstone of gay culture. Keep in mind that sending unsolicited nudes is also illegal in certain states.

These are serious issues in the gay community not being addressed by anyone, but I will continue to fight for what I believe in until change is made. Throughout history, people fought tirelessly for their ideals and their idea of justice/morale, and I’ve decided I will do the same for my own ideals. Besides from being sent nudes after I explicitly say no, I’ve also been sexually assaulted by Grindr guys in real life, on many occasions. Assaulted as in pinned down, held captive to do acts that were never agreed upon. And my “no” never mattered to any of them. That’s how I know the grindr community has a consent issue, because I’ve experienced it many times before. I don’t want other people to have to go through what I did, nor do I want others to receive unsolicited nudes despite not wanting them.

Thank you for making this post. It means a lot that people are starting to speak out.

Instead of the "not at first", "yes", or "never" options, I think an "ask first" option would be useful as well. You may want to share nsfw content if you're enjoying the conversation with someone. But may not want to blast them right out. This also provides some level of consent to users who may not want to receive unsolicited x rated photos. Profiles violating the "ask first" policy could be reported or suspended. Further, localities are beginning to crack down on unsolicited content. This would help add an additional layer of protection for Grindr and its users.

There needs to be a clearly stated and enforceable rule that says users need to have consent before sending pictures of their dick to someone. I have stated on my profile that i don't want dick pics without my consent but this relies on other users actually bothering to read my profile before messaging, which many of them don't. If they HAVE read my profile, ignored what it says, and sent dick pics anyway, that's even worse. It's almost illegal to send unsolicited dick pics but grindr doesn't even give selectable options to report another user for forcing their cock upon someone. It's not good enough.

It would be cool if there was a way to filter unwanted photos from people, like if they tried to send nude photos of themselves it should say “ sorry but this user isn’t accepting photos right now” until the user switches it back on because peopl don’t read bio’s to where it says nsfw photos not at first, and they just send them thinking it’s gonna get your attention. I know this sounds dumb but it’s just really frustrating when people don’t read bio’s

This needs to happen! I need something in app to request my permission before old men with blank profiles send me pics of their dirty holes or saggy gray balls please. There are people that get off on sharing their hideous junk to strangers and they make the app shameful for me to use.

I don’t want to have to cover up my phone in public when opening Grindr because the grid isn’t even safe to do so with ass photos. Like any social media app, you regulate the user interface for safe viewing and let the chats be less regulated for pic trading etc.

To add to this, the grid shouldn’t look like a pornographic website, we already know how damaging porn is we don’t need more of it. Go back to proper profile photo regulations

Change the verbiage of the “Yes Please” option under “Accepts NSFW Pics” to say just “Yes”, or “Sure”. Including “Please” sounds like I’m expecting it or hoping for it, when the reality is that I don’t care either way.

Instead of the "not at first", "yes", or "never" options, I think an "ask first" option would be useful as well. You may want to share nsfw content if you're enjoying the conversation with someone. But may not want to blast them right out. This also provides some level of consent to users who may not want to receive unsolicited x rated photos. Profiles violating the "ask first" policy could be reported or suspended. Further, localities are beginning to crack down on unsolicited content. This would help add an additional layer of protection for Grindr and its users.

There’s been many times that I’ve been flooded with photos that I really didn’t want to see, and as the chat summary screen only shows me the last message I was sent by a particular user I wouldn’t know that I’d been sent unsolicited nudes _until_ I opened the chat.

I literally cannot open the app in public places anymore as I know that people have seen what’s been on my screen before (and my shocked reaction).

Similar to what Reddit and Twitter do with NSFW photos, please blur ALL photos until I decide to click them and view them so that I can still talk with people.

I get many unsolicited explicit photos despite my profile, and frankly am disappointed that this feature is not already in place. I may delete the app if it doesn’t improve.

Vocês deveria rever esse sistema de análise de fotos, como não aceitão uma foto minha por conta do efeito me dizendo que fugia dos padrões do app( acham que eu fosse menor de idade), mas aceitam que as pessoas postem nudes no perfil sem problema nenhum.

With sending unsolicited nudes about to be added to the 2003 sexual offenses act in England and Wales, thus becoming a crime, grindr should definitely implement some sort of consequences for those guilty of violating others consent on their app.

Thank you Alex for demonstrating why it is indeed highly necessary violation of consent rule breaks should be punished more harshly - it's not about seeing a man nude, it's about the violation of consent. There are way too many gay men still acting like consent is something that only matters if you're penetrating somebody and otherwise it isn't rape and therefore not worth mentioning and it also tracks with the rape cultury vibe a lot of gay clubs have where people will literally act like they're entitled to touching you because you're dancing in the same public space as them. People and platforms in the gay community need to work on voicing more actively that sexually harassing people, even online, is abhorrant and abnormal (and literally illegal in most places) and until apps like Grindr start putting their foot down I see little chance in changing the disgusting way some gay men treat their peers

I'd also like to draw everybody's attention to Grindr's description in the app store:
Grindr is the world’s #1 FREE mobile social networking app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people to connect. Chat and meet up with interesting people for free, or upgrade to Grindr XTRA or Grindr Unlimited for more features, more fun, and more chances to connect.
It's not that it's a hookup app, it's that you use it as a hookup app and because you're so stuck in the mindset being constantly so horny you ignore other people's boundaries you can't even see that some people might not always be looking for the next dick to suck on there

Picture messages could come concealed and only revealed when users press a button to open them. Grindr could also use their picture recognition technology to provide captions for picture messages , e.g. "This appears to be a face picture", "This appears to be a NSFW picture" or "We're not sure what this is"

This would protect users against seeing unsolicited dick pics.

Agreed. Consent is important. Forcing people into having to "just deal with it" is rape culture in action. No part of the LGBTQIA+ community should ever be supporting or perpetuating rape culture. Consent is sexy, dick pics being forced on you is not.

I like the “accepts NSFW pics” field in profiles, but a lot of people don’t read through profiles before sending messages and send them anyway. When someone tries to send pictures to a profile that they’ve never messaged before/haven’t messaged recently, and their NSFW preference is set to “not at first” or “never”, there should be a warning banner that appears within the photo selection tool to alert them. Hopefully this will stop unwanted NSFW pictures.

e.g. “This person doesn’t want to receive NSFW pics, keep it above the belt!”, “Wait until this person gives you the go-ahead to send NSFW pics, they indicated they don’t want to receive them at first.”

is* absurd

the amount of gross pictures and comments i get from people i never had any prior interaction with us absurd. i would like it if there was an option so that they could only message me if i tap them back. it would avoid many unwanted dick pics. doesn’t have to be universal, just an option for less spam

Why would you sign up to a hookup app with sexual adverts yet be actively offended by someone not asking before sending a dick pic? Sexual content is part of the deal since it is the entire premise of the app. If you don't like it just delete it and move on. One shouldn't be so outraged by seeing a man naked.