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Hi, thank you so much for posting this. I’m 23, gay, and am tired of receiving unsolicited nudes despite my profile explicitly saying I don’t consent. Consent should be enforced and practiced with all sexual exchanges, whether it’s online or in-person. I have had Grindr guys curse me out, saying the most bizarre, cruel things you could imagine, just because my bio says I don’t nudes or hook ups. This is ridiculous, and I know many other gays feel the same way as me but haven’t spoken out about it since sex is such a cornerstone of gay culture. Keep in mind that sending unsolicited nudes is also illegal in certain states.
These are serious issues in the gay community not being addressed by anyone, but I will continue to fight for what I believe in until change is made. Throughout history, people fought tirelessly for their ideals and their idea of justice/morale, and I’ve decided I will do the same for my own ideals. Besides from being sent nudes after I explicitly say no, I’ve also been sexually assaulted by Grindr guys in real life, on many occasions. Assaulted as in pinned down, held captive to do acts that were never agreed upon. And my “no” never mattered to any of them. That’s how I know the grindr community has a consent issue, because I’ve experienced it many times before. I don’t want other people to have to go through what I did, nor do I want others to receive unsolicited nudes despite not wanting them.
Thank you for making this post. It means a lot that people are starting to speak out.