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I do not understand why this isn't the app behavior by default – Tinder and its derivatives only show you people who are in your age range, location range, etc as dictated by your dating profile preferences.
RE: Ageism. No. First, this goes both ways – plenty of guys don't want younger guys messaging them and plenty of younger guys don't want older guys messaging them. Second, I find it incredibly insincere to paint this as a case of discrimination akin to racism – just look at the power dynamic –older men are overwhelmingly represented in politics. They are overwhelmingly represented in executive offices. Old men hold *all* the power in this country. It is not structurally possible for a young person to "oppress" an old person. This feeble attempt at using the language of social justice reeks of Boomer entitlement to people's bodies. I have put in my profile that I am looking for guys around my age because to be outside that age range is to necessarily be in radically different places in our lives, and with completely different socializations stemming from the changes that occur over generations, and that is not conducive to my end goal – it is a perfectly valid thing to consider when dating, and the vast majority of people do – everyone has an ceiling and floor on who they'd date. Most if not 100% of say 30 year olds would never even consider dating an 85 year old. So stop white-knighting for the young/old or whomever you're getting angsty about because you TOO also have an age ceiling/floor.
Last, you won't stop people from just blocking those who fall outside their preferences anyway. This will happen no matter what, and it is frustrating for the person being messaged, and hurtful for the one on the receiving end. If only there were a way so that neither party could be made aware of each others' existence and this whole situation could be avoided anyway?
This feature is LONG overdue.
Or perhaps just add a profile field for sexuality? Then people can just filter out straight men. this seems like a no-brainer and something that grindr will inevitably do as more and more straight men get comfortable with the idea that it's ok to be straight and into transwomen (which it is).