The search filters I set should prevent Profiles that do not meet my specific criteria from searching, viewing, or contacting me. As an example, I am a GAY male, I have no interest in Trans, Females, Fems, No Profile, and No picture. Yet, any of these profiles can access my profile, contact me, send me pictures and they shouldn't.
Change the contact availability to match BOTH profiles and their needs. The user should have the power to deny visibility to those that do not meet the users search criteria.