Like it or not, m, and regardless of whether it stems from a flawed social construct of race, or whether it is “fair,” for a lot of us sexual attraction is directly linked to what we perceive to be race.
Reading the other comments on here, I gather a lot of users on this site are attracted to only one ethnic type, and it seems often not to be their own. I am sure others have an exclusive preference for their own kind, while perhaps others have broader tastes. Regardless, since a large number of users are here for a hookup, and they know what they like, no amount of diversity training is going to make them want to have an afternoon of fun with an ethnic group they find repugnant.
While there are probably some bisexual men who use this site, many men here are not at all interested in having sex with a cis woman; does that make them sexists? Is the idea of having a site that is exclusive to men who like to have sex with men sexist? Imagine a dating or hookup site that did not allow a gay man to filter whom he was looking for or who was looking at him; he might logically offend every straight cis man he approaches while being grossed out by every straight cis woman who approaches him. While everyone suggests that gender is merely a social construct, and that therefore the genders with whom anyone chooses to have sexual intimacy are a matter of social conditioning, I don’t think that when anyone is selecting a potential person with whom to hook up he or she is willing consciously to lay aside his or her social conditioning in order that he or she might engage in sexual intimacy with someone of a gender that they find a complete turn-off. And so it is with race.
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Like it or not, m, and regardless of whether it stems from a flawed social construct of race, or whether it is “fair,” for a lot of us sexual attraction is directly linked to what we perceive to be race.
Reading the other comments on here, I gather a lot of users on this site are attracted to only one ethnic type, and it seems often not to be their own. I am sure others have an exclusive preference for their own kind, while perhaps others have broader tastes. Regardless, since a large number of users are here for a hookup, and they know what they like, no amount of diversity training is going to make them want to have an afternoon of fun with an ethnic group they find repugnant.
While there are probably some bisexual men who use this site, many men here are not at all interested in having sex with a cis woman; does that make them sexists? Is the idea of having a site that is exclusive to men who like to have sex with men sexist? Imagine a dating or hookup site that did not allow a gay man to filter whom he was looking for or who was looking at him; he might logically offend every straight cis man he approaches while being grossed out by every straight cis woman who approaches him. While everyone suggests that gender is merely a social construct, and that therefore the genders with whom anyone chooses to have sexual intimacy are a matter of social conditioning, I don’t think that when anyone is selecting a potential person with whom to hook up he or she is willing consciously to lay aside his or her social conditioning in order that he or she might engage in sexual intimacy with someone of a gender that they find a complete turn-off. And so it is with race.