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In response to the below: I 100% agree as an African American myself. I happen to be attracted largely to those outside my own race for many complex reasons that I wont go into here. I appreciate the move by grindr to support the Black Lives Matter movement and also address the levels of discrimination amongst the LGBTQ community (there's a LOT!).
However, we must balance all of the above with the extreme challenges of the LGBTQ community in "finding" partners whether sexual or LTR. We don't have the luxury of as easily bumping into gazillions of potential partners in the grocery store, soccer practice, at the cleaners or wherever straight people do.......our only option, especially during Covid, is online. At my age, "knowing myself", I know who I'm attracted to and who I'm not which does not make anyone racist. In fact, being an International Relations major myself.....I love differences of culture! and most of my friends are of different backgrounds. One of the reasons I live in South Florida....multiculturalism. With all of the above said......it is all too challenging for members of the LGBTQ community to find partners. Having to scroll through more profiles than needed is more of a disservice to our community than an aid. Again, I appreciate the social awareness- there are other meaningful ways to support worthy causes and movements. Just don't make it more challenging for "us".....the LGBTQ community to find our ideal partners based on normal preferences.
This is in addition to another's post below:
I’m super duper white and for the last 20 years, I’ve consistently and without variation found men of other ethnicities vastly more attractive than my fellow gringos.
The ethnicity filter is simply a way of making searches more efficient, removing the guys to whom it is highly unlikely I will be attracted.
For what it’s worth, when I set the ethnicity filter in the past, I checked every option EXCEPT white. If anything, it helps increase the likelihood that a man of color will hear from me!
And for white guys who only like white guys....it’s not racist any more than black guys or Latino gents who say they only prefer others of the same ethnicity. Our personal preferences are complex and rooted in some pretty heavy & deep psychology. Removing this filter was a nice gesture to the BLM movement, applause for attempting to be politically correct. But all it does is slow down users’ ability to use the service, and therefore its value to them.
Please bring back the ethnicity filter. Gesture done, mission accomplished, millions of gay men & Trans folks & everything adjacent & in between had our lives inconvenienced slightly but consistently for several months because Corporate felt pressured to do something, and this was the obvious choice. Statement made, mission accomplished. Now just quietly flip it back on. Don’t make a press release about it, just do it. Like 3 people will care, but another several hundred thousand will be thankful. I, for one, would consider paying more for a subscription that included this feature—it is that important to me.