Lets make grindr gay again
Lets make Grindr gay again, lets start by getting rid of biological women and m/f couples. We as gay men have very few apps to meet each other while biological women and m/f couples have thousands for example tinder, bumble and hinge. First it was our bars and now the very few apps we have to meet each, WHY?!?!?! why must we share everything with biological women just for the sake on inclusivity. Why can't we has gay men have our own spaces? Lets Make Grindr Gay Again!!!!
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Jamie McAllister commented
And this isn’t even sexist in any way
It’s a gay app
Gay men like cock
If you don’t have one, and you’re saying you’re a man, you’re just misleading us!
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James Parker commented
And there is still no reply or comment from Grindr in regards to our issues. NO RESPONSE IS NOT AN ANSWER!!
If history has taught us anything, is the power of money. Simply stop paying for the app...too simple, right? -
James Parker commented
And yet, with all the complaints, we hear nothing from Grindr. No RESPONSE IS NOT ANSWER!!
if we've learned anything in the past -
Anonymous commented
Sb - damn, I would think an outspoken transgender advocate like yourself would know better than to invade a gay man's space and spout off homophobic vitriol by describing us as "queer". Queer is a hateful slur that not all of us buy into, no matter how you try to re-define it for US to fit YOUR agenda.
Just a reminder to everyone, the trans community only recently started to flock over to Grindr around 2018 when Craigslist shut down its personals section. At the time, Craigslist actually had "trans seeking" / "seeking trans" sections that were SEPARATE from the "men 4 men" section, and that separation WORKED for everyone. There were no complaints about it not being inclusive enough or any other such nonsense. Grindr actually took 10 steps backwards by trying to make its once-upon-a-time dating/hookup app for men into a catch all "safe space" for everyone. No progress at all.
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Sb commented
Damn, I would think queer men would be able to express how wrong it is for a company to exploit the fact that it's incredibly difficult for queer men to find safe spaces to date WITHOUT resorting to transphobic vitriol, but some of you just can't help yourself. You all realize it's perfectly possible for there to be a Grindr that caters to your preferences AND provides space for trans women who, btw, ALSO face the same lack of safe dating spaces, right? And that grindr's refusal to provide those features unless you fork over an exorbitant fee is GRINDR'S fault, not that of transwomen? Someone wise once said, "those who claim their wants and needs can be only be catered to when others' are not are the ones who deserve it the least". The problem here isn't transwomen on grindr, it's a company that chooses to exploit multiple vulnerable communities and stoke negative emotions to increase user engagement. Becoming enraged at transwomen only benefits the company that's screwing over both communities and does nothing to improve things for either.
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letsgrind commented
I want to upvote the previous comment. No guys? SERIOUSLY?! FOR A GAY DATING APP?!?!?!?!?! G-A-Y. As in HOMO. As in MEN who want MEN. Now profiles saying "no men". On a gay dating app. I called a guy out recently and got blocked, because he wanted "no men". On a GAY dating app for MEN who want MEN. Um, so, should this just be an EVERYONE dating app, and nobody gets a choice on their preferences anymore? I'm pretty much fed up. Don't know about y'all.....
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David Baker commented
Grindr profiles increasingly specifying ‘no guys’, because they’re only seeking TS
WTF?
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rj No commented
Why just why. I’m constantly blocking anything resembling a female
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Anon Feedback commented
Yes! ‘None of your beeswax!’ makes a valid point. This is our space. To not provide gay cis men their space is to pretend we’re not still marginalized. Respect us. We’re still fighting for our space
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None of your Beeswax! commented
ya know?
bruce wagner made a very good point, in the review he left for this app at google's play store earlier today.
he stated, "grindr identifies itself as ``gay chat´´."and this is true.
it says as much right up there in the heading: "Grindr — Gay chat"
so..
..let me put it to you like this: i, as a gay cis-man, only have accounts with growlr, scruff, and this flaming hot messthat's it.
that's all.not-a-once, has it ever occurred to me to take my little gay ass over to bumble, or hinge, or tinder, or any other breeder grounds, to go bothering those folks there with my『manly man』cocklust
nor have i ever stuck my nose in the other dating apps that are marketed for lesbians or the transfolk (in spite of my potential attraction for transmen)
~apps marketed specifically for transfolk / lesbians do exist, by the way~so..
..if i —as a horny, cock-loving gay man— am able to exercise enough restraint to not intrude upon others' spaces... ...why am i being expected to accept (and LOVE!!) intrusions from other tribes?grindr should be a space for cis-men who desire other cis-men
grindr should not be a space for confused cis-men who literally turn their noses up to other (masculine) cis-men, demanding the attentions of "women" ONLY instead so they can pretend in their little warped minds they're still heterosexual
this is the digital arena we're talking about here — it's not as if it is impossible to create other apps which can cater to any and all combinations of lgbtqi+
hell:
for that matter, the confused bloakes are more than free to create their own app — "manz4tranz" or something like thatthey can create it: and i promise you, i'll continue maintaining my "i'm steering fucking clear of your area" policy towards it
i wouldn't even go searching for itwhy?
because (even if i don't agree with it) i can respect people's ~legal~ sexual preferences
(plus, i'm really tired of seeing all these hot, butch guys on my grid whose balls i'll never be able to lick; whose holes, i'll never be able to pound
the pseudo-breeders are as functionally useless for me, as the "i'm not bigoted, it's just my preference" fuckers)
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Jaymes commented
Where did you get the picture of the girl in red dress calling me a faggot in my chat? That's literally me she's talking to
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LostStonerBoy commented
@Howie you do realize that the "G" in LGBTQ+ stands for Gay, so technically you are a part of the LGBTQ+ community.
In fact every minority sexuality is included because of the "+" which is why the "I" & "A" letters that some people have started adding to it, don't need to be added at all because of the plus sign, but that's a whole different conversation.
I do believe I understand what your meaning thought, which is that this app is for gay bi and curious men, not females, or couples, as in it's not for the entire LGBTQ+ community, just the G, B, & Q men.
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Howie commented
Thank you for posting this! I totally agree. I have zero interest in hooking up with trans people. I have nothing against them. I'm just not sexually attracted to them. I have no interest in sex with women or m/f couples. I don't consider myself to be LGBTQ+. I'm just gay. Period.
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Matt Jones commented
I'm all for an inclusive app, but please let me filter out people with vaginas. I'm not sexually attracted to them and no amount of hostility will change that. My exclusive attraction to men is not phobic, it's my sexual orientation.
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Matt Jones commented
I'm all for an inclusive app, but please let me filter out people with vaginas. I'm not sexually attracted to them and no amount of hostility will change that.
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Nathan commented
@purple pleasure, you as a cis woman have every fucking dating app on this planet, we as gay men do not, now fuck off our app and leave us alone
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RD Orion commented
Can’t find M4M BECAUSE OF ALL THE WOMEN/trans/cds on here. Return it to its original purpose.
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Rosen Rotterdam commented
The only people who decide what Grindr is "for" or how it "should be" are the people who program(med), own, and run it.
If you don't like it, go develop your own app, or use one of the apps that fall in line with your vision.
Just as trans woman started Pride, we are a big part of what grew Grindr to what it is today in terms of success and popularity. You think you gay men would have nearly as much traffic, especially from the "discreet" and "straight" crowds (whom we all know you love) if it weren't for us? Please.
I'm sorry you can't get your precious men-exclusive space like you want, but I can't even get cis men to stop using the "trans" tribe tag so good fucking luck buddy.
Quit your whinging or go elsewhere. Exclusionists have no place on Grindr. -
PurplePleasure commented
As a biological bisexual female with a bisexual male, this feels biphobic.
When I created my profile to find guys to fuck my bf while I watch/play, I got close to a hundred of messages within hours and still continue to get a lot.
Y'all don't realize how many bisexual men there are! They are the real repressed group in the LGBTQIA+, shunned by gay men and shunned by straight women!
Any M/F profiles I've seen have been all to find men to fuck the man. We can't find that on Tinder/Bumble etc! In fact we get banned off them for that.
Yes there should be a filter for bio female, MTF, FTM, and even Gold Star ⭐ gay!
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jaunee commented
I agree with you, never really know if they are cis men?