Side position
I, along with thousands of other gays, am a side. Unlike tops or bottoms, we don’t enjoy partaking in anal sex. Unfortunately the only options available under “position” all refer to anal sex. It’d be very helpful to include an “oral only” or “side” or anything really, so that we don’t have to explain ourselves to everyone who messages us.

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John NS MacLeod commented
yes
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Jo Sokal commented
Add the SIDE option!
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Anonymous commented
Add it!
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Paul Turner commented
Not All gay sex about rooting
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Paul M Smith commented
I, along with thousands of other gays, am a side. Unlike tops or bottoms, we don’t enjoy partaking in anal sex. Unfortunately the only options available under “position” all refer to anal sex. It’d be very helpful to include a “side”only” reference so that we don’t have to explain ourselves to everyone who messages us.
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Ezzie W Mirabella commented
I think other than or in addition to top and bottom there should be other options top but looking for a dating same for the bottom. Looking for a lifemate without baggage using top and bottom is meaning sex only got to change the options my other issue is the bots getting through. Some who are here looking for money that of all the people I report I still get the more and sometimes different names and the same pictures. You want my money this above all has to be fixed!
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Ezzie W Mirabella commented
I think other than or in addition to top and bottom there should be other options top but looking for a dating same for the bottom. Looking for a lifemate without baggage using top and bottom is meaning sex only got to change the options
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Spencer Wellborn commented
I share this idea. It would help a lot.
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Tamás Kovács commented
I agree, it would be really helpful!
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Hussein Al-hadad commented
I totally agree that there should be an option for this
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Kyle James commented
This would help people like us to meet others who are similar. We are very obviously a minority in the gay community, so another option to filter with will help find likeminded individuals
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Gavin Alcarez commented
Not everyone on the app is top, bottom, or verse. Let there be a “side” option or fill in the blank.
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John-Richard Pagan commented
Adding a side option hurts no one and assures that Grindr is truly inclusive to all types of sexual identity in the gay community. I would totally select “side” if it were an option!
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Alex B. commented
The inclusion of side, would save us a lot of awkward convos about the topic.
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Tom commented
Ditto. Adding a side option on Grindr would provide much-needed visibility for the side community, and lots of it.
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DC commented
I support this. Being able to say “side” would help clarify my intentions
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Yoi Raab commented
This is highly important and liberating for those who are pressured to anal culture!
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Northern Guy commented
There are many guys who label themselves as sides who dont prefer anal sex. It's just as bad as someone saying... I wonder who is the man in the gay relationship. I find way more pleasure, enjoyment and intimacy in a side relationship and there is so much more to enjoy in the male body by being a side. I look forward to Seeing this option in your profiles.
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Vincent commented
Not only does top/bottom limit us to a binary community, it also perpetuates inadequecy traumas on sex performance for guys who do not engage in anal sex.
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Anonymous commented
This is something so very simple to add. Please do so.