[Deleted User] commented
@Rebecca Martineau, you're literally proving our point here. Grindr is an app designed for gay guys to chat, possibly meet, etc it's even advertised as such and has been for years. Yet here you are as a woman.. whether you're trans or not I don't know, nor does it matter since that shouldn't be allowed either. The app is meant for gay men only just like a site such as "christianmingle" is meant for Christians only and so on.
There are already tons, and I do mean *tons*, of dating apps for straight people, lesbians, etc. Why is it that lately all the gay men apps are being taken over by trans people, straight people, and females? On top of that, we're supposed to suddenly cater to them too..
The reason there is no gender or sexuality filter is because it's an app made for gay men only. Shouldn't need a gender filter nor a sexuality filter.. It'd be like you going to China and complaining that they speak Chinese. You're using an app made for one thing and complaining that it doesn't do something else.
Rebecca Martineau commented
Without a gender and sexuality filter this app is RIDICULOUS.
Jake Hoffman commented
We need to be able to separate folks out. If gay men just want to look up other gay men then be able to do that. Without a bunch of women in the listing, as beautiful as they might be, and they are. But I'm gay, I'm not attracted to women. There should be a selector option for people to chose what they want to see, especially if they are going to be paying for memberships!!!
Ryan Campbell commented
I understand that Grindr is trying to be more inclusive but you should include a gender filter because my gallery is full of people I'm not interested in
The problem is that a lot of men think they are very smart and choose the trans tribe as though they're trans too.
So, no matter where you go, there are tons of horny men, whick sucks.
There should be a gender button to exclude men who think they're "entitled".
Burn Someritano commented
This will allow users to see only who they are interested in and would prevent those they do not wish to be viewed by from seeing them. This would also mitigate hostile communication between different groups of people. This would allow users to tailor Grindr for their own intended use and would offer grinder a much broader demographic with which to do business. The argument that grinder is a "gay man's app" is moot, in that, a majority of the other dating sites out there were alienating the LGBT crowd and created a need for sites like Grindr's original model. Now, things have changed and more sites are respecting and including people of all walks of life. Grinder should do the same. Include everyone and Grindr will reap a greater benefit. I would think a group that has been ostracized and discriminated against for so long would be unconditionally accepting and tolerant of anyone who wants to be counted among them. I can see how str8 cis users who are LGBTQ allies would prefer to find each other on Grindr, rather than exclusionist sites. Great minds think alike and LGBTQs need all the allies we can get. I say roll out the red carpet for all walks of life and make it so each user can create their own environment inside Grindr. Further, not everyone only uses grinder for hookups. I can't tell how many profiles I have read were people State specifically that they are not looking for hookups. That would be another feature request.
Love you guys and gals!
But it exists already; it’s called filter! In the tribes, select all but trans!
As for the straight men, don’t text them. They CLEARLY mention “no men” or “girls only” in their profile!
Blank profiles?! Well… you can also filter those with “no photos”.
I hope it helps!!!
Yes!! We should be able to hide our profile from certain groups or empty profiles without having to be hidden/incognito.
The fact that I’m stumbling onto multiple “straight men” and “trans woman” profiles is troubling and upsetting. I’ve had straight men tell me they are not interested in “faggots”.
Are you kidding me. THIS MUST BE ADDRESSED IMMEDIATELY! I’m not saying to remove them from the app. But there should be a filter ability for me to:
1. Hide straight men and trans woman from my grad
2. PREVENT THESE GROUPS FROM SEEING MY PROFILE.
I have multiple trans woman sending me NSFW pics pre/post constructive surgery, begging to hook up. I do not feel comfortable on the app anymore.
This is also why I’m always on incognito.
P.S: I’d also like to prevent BLANK profiles from seeing my on the grid whilst I go online.
Until these above options/features are implemented, I will never go online (and will continue to be incognito), which leads me to miss out on potential connections with GAY MEN!
Other dating apps' implementations are okay enough. You can set a gender but, for example, depending on your sexuality, also have a toggle for "don't show me to x" where x is the opposite gender presentation if your sexuality is queer/gay/lesbian.
Seeing all these users misusing the gender and pronoun fields is very upsetting and triggering. It leads to conversation that are exhausting and painful.
How about you guys actually put all the gender options down as default (even it there is many) and keep adding more upon request, rather than giving people who do not understand the importance of this section a platform to take a piss by allowing them to write whatever they want.
I understand the befits of the fill in “other” option, but honestly it’s more damaging than helpful and it just feels like it saves you the work of putting down the options yourself.
I have seen the info box below the selection menu. It’s not enough to stop this form of abuse. Those jokes are everywhere!
I often find myself having a hard time filtering through profiles that are by not only men with feminine gender expressions, which I have no issue with, but actual cis gendered women. I support the use of Grindr by anyone who is looking for whatever reason.
But we want what we want. For those looking for a good match it would be best to include all possible identity factors, assuming those are legitimate deal breakers that have no malice intended for the person not selected.
I’m not a misogynist for not being attracted to women anymore than I’m transphobic for not having a sexual attraction in that direction. Likewise I’m not dissing or hating more feminine gender expressing men by not feeling a strong sexual attraction to them.
The filters for gender identity & sex would allow for a much more specific approach that would much more easily pair likeminded people without the need for “masc only” profiles or otherwise “looking for ____”. A selection in the profile that allows others to search or not search for themselves using that criteria would also allow for options when one would prefer to not self apply labels but allow for an open inclusive search where they would appear when those filters are selected.
By reciprocation though it would be equally fair to allow for a feature allowing an omission of those profiles during a search. I don’t believe these are narrow minded or old fashioned needs or ideas. There is a wide variance of expression within the gay community. However sex is as personal as voting & we all have a right to choose our ideal mate without input from others whether it be a Christian family values advocate or your own friends.
Our sexuality is unique & that does mean at times exclusivity. Sexual freedom is as much about being allowed to say no as having the freedom to say yes. Our sexuality as men is typically fairly hardwired. It isn’t a moral issue, a kindness issue or a tolerance issue. We should help honor each other’s types, fetishes, kinks, and orientation. I’m a gay man. I’m not bi or attracted to feminine behaviors or appearance.
I still support those members of the gay community that are more feminine. But I am & always will be attracted to masculinity. And had this not already been a somewhat difficult thing to address, in person, at the widest time, in the past, and knowing other guys who’ve had similar experiences, it seems those options are necessary to avoid time wasted & feelings unintentionally hurt.
Narrowing our search only helps everyone meet their ideal match & ensures everyone is only having a great time.
I realize there are a lot of passionate opinions on this issue from both sides. There are great debates that could be had on the subject of masculinity & being a gay man. Some have happened. But a lot of what could be said positively about masculinity is often silenced by those assuming advocating for that in any way or for features on Grindr that would help allow for a search of only masculine gender expression is a threat, a dismissal, or discrimination against others who don’t meet that criteria. This is as untrue as it is that we as gay men, discriminate against women by not feeling a strong attraction to them, reciprocating advances, or refusing to reframe or rethink that lack of attraction to allow them to be included in our dating options.
From someone’s who’s tried dating feminine men several times over the years, sincerely loving them & wanting it to work, I can say my wiring is what it is. And I do as much harm to them, however unintentionally, by trying to deny that as I do to myself. we all need to accept all of us as we are and that means accepting that none of us are for everyone. That not everyone is for everyone else. That our differences make us great & that will inevitably mean we feel differently, want differently, and since all of us are finitely what we are we will match with very specific kinds of people.
What I do by choosing the wrong guy for me is to deny him the chance to find the right guy for him.
most of the hetero females are just looking for their DL boyfriends/husbands on Grindr which kinda takes away from the Grindr users that wish to participate as "DISCREET". It should not be available for cis females in my opinion for this very reason!! Allow the men that keep Grindr going be able to be themselves on Grindr rather than being too afraid to post pics because, for many, they are worried their other (female)
halves, may be on here stalking them. How are curious guys supposed to loose that fear and find out who they are with Cis females allowed to join??
Except that many of them are not there to make friends. I get a “hey handsome” message from a cis straight woman at least once a week. Make Grindr gay again!
Matt Wheeler commented
It would be great if you could include Ethnicity, Gender and Pronouns in the search/filter options. Also a way to prevent profiles from showing in search that I would prefer not to see again without blocking the person.
Ceroes Neko commented
This is a hookup/dating app first. When it was only for men this wouldn't have been needed as much as trans men and cis-men that like men were 99% of the user base.
I am sick of seeing women I'm not looking for them.
What's worse is the "str8" men that come on here looking for women trans women. I don't want to see or talk to them they are also extremely rude and generally don't actually understand lgbt terminology...
Str8 doesn't even mean straight, it's a gay man who is masculine acting or appears straight.
They also tend to put things like only prefer trans in their profile yet what they really mean is passable trans women only. It allows a ton of discrimination. So they exclude trans men, gender non-conforming etc anyone who isn't actually passable as a woman. They are extremely rude to anyone that isn't a passable woman and no one should have to deal with that.
Allow us to put looking for men, women and trans in our profiles would solve this. Then I could just sort out those people only looking for men and sort out anyone who doesn't identify as male and/or have male genitals. I'm not going to be rude to any trans women on here purposely but I don't want to see them. I'm not looking for them... As for trans men I don't mind but there may be some who aren't looking for them either.
I agree, I think the solution would be for them to create a better straight version than Blendr. Tinder has been on the market big because no one comes closer. Grindr is big for gays because of the anonymous options. Put this same style of app to straight market and boom.
As most would say, this is a gay app. I’d argue that a lot of straight people use this app because there is nothing like it that works so well. There is a woman option, we should be able to search for specific gender for free. Depending on the area is how limited the result would be but it’s not easy to find that specific gender in a sea of random nearby people. Also, I know blendr is like the straight version of grindr, but it’s not close to equally effective. There should be the same level of anonymous capabilities and security. Again, Grindr is one of a kind, having apps that meet everyone need the same way would make you be killing the game, and more money.
Don't even have a filter for that, if did it would be premium, so who's going to pay for it you? @Kori Alvarez ?
And exactly they are woman with a fanny and tits they are not supposed to be here.
Nothing personal with woman or trans women but in fully homo and just the thought of fanny makes me sick hence why on a gay app for gay MEN!
Kori Alvarez commented
Use your filter and stop blaming women on taking your gay men. That sounds wild, not the greatest request I've seen.