Ability to block people above your preferred age from messaging you
Messages from older guys can get very creepy and is usually unwanted and I want to be able to block anyone out of my preferred age range from messaging me
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Anonymous
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I do not understand why this isn't the app behavior by default – Tinder and its derivatives only show you people who are in your age range, location range, etc as dictated by your dating profile preferences.
RE: Ageism. No. First, this goes both ways – plenty of guys don't want younger guys messaging them and plenty of younger guys don't want older guys messaging them. Second, I find it incredibly insincere to paint this as a case of discrimination akin to racism – just look at the power dynamic –older men are overwhelmingly represented in politics. They are overwhelmingly represented in executive offices. Old men hold *all* the power in this country. It is not structurally possible for a young person to "oppress" an old person. This feeble attempt at using the language of social justice reeks of Boomer entitlement to people's bodies. I have put in my profile that I am looking for guys around my age because to be outside that age range is to necessarily be in radically different places in our lives, and with completely different socializations stemming from the changes that occur over generations, and that is not conducive to my end goal – it is a perfectly valid thing to consider when dating, and the vast majority of people do – everyone has an ceiling and floor on who they'd date. Most if not 100% of say 30 year olds would never even consider dating an 85 year old. So stop white-knighting for the young/old or whomever you're getting angsty about because you TOO also have an age ceiling/floor.
Last, you won't stop people from just blocking those who fall outside their preferences anyway. This will happen no matter what, and it is frustrating for the person being messaged, and hurtful for the one on the receiving end. If only there were a way so that neither party could be made aware of each others' existence and this whole situation could be avoided anyway?
This feature is LONG overdue.
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Anonymous commented
Agreed with this actually, but not just ABOVE please BELOW! I'm 30 and dont want messages from under 27s.
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John Smith
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People must be special kind of ****** to think it is ageism to block people of older ages. ****** preferances are not discriminatory, sexuality can't be changed if someone is not interested in older ages you absoluty twats!
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John Harper commented
Please flag this idea as inappropriate. It violates one of the legally protected classes. It’s also just immature in general.
To OP, grow up. There are more constructive ways of dealing with the type of people YOU attract.
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cannotdraw
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This would fall under being discriminatory by way of ageism. However, perhaps it would be better to report these profiles as creepy if they do not seem to get the hint if you tell them they are being creepy. If enough people report the profile, it would be great if they could be deleted by the Admins for being harassing. Because you're right, those kinds of messages that seem so copy paste get annoying and are creepy, I like to call them out on it so they stop, but its pretty much pointless. They respond as if they're throwing a temper tantrum. Plus it doesn't stop people from putting lower ages like they do already, or none at all.
Again, the problem isn't the app, and filtering isn't gonna do anything but make people find ways around it. Instead of just filtering or blocking people, either report them if they're being scary, or tell them that they're being creepy if they are. Hopefully eventually they'll get the hint to change and try a more respectable approach. Its only through honest communication that things can change. Some of those older guys grew up in an era where that sort of coming on to a person was the way that things were done, and to them it doesnt seem creepy. But since no one tells them that, instead just blocks them, they feel rejected for their age and never understand that if they simply changed their approach they might get a different response. Give people the opportunity to change, if they don't, then block them or report them..
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Mark
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One day you will grow up. In the meantime, go **** yourself
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Botak
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This doesnt seem, this is discrimination pure as watter.
If.you want not to get those messages, just block the profiles man. There you go, your solution. -
Anonymous
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i do hesitate at blocking anything for prefferences i mean this is how we find out we like new thingsi mean how will you know if you never tried it and really you are all gonna get old but i have endured the creepo that will just not give up when reason has to have demonstrated that sorry man you just haven't got the "daddy thing going for you" or that the fact that its way to creepy to imagine my fathers wrinkled up old *** do maybe we could just have some more room in our profile description i have resorted to making memes that i can type up more info on or taking a picture of a printed paper to increase the size of the profile and things about me just to help people have a better chance that they might realize there fate before they get rejected
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Anonymous
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Feels like discrimination based on age... will the next idea be to block people from another race from messaging you?
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km
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There are many examples of "creepy messaging" and it's not just sourced from or directed towards any particular demographic.
This is a good idea but to narrow, open it up to any of the filters available.
If you don't want to be bothered by people with X, Y, Z characteristics, a feature to block accounts outside those parameters from sending you messages, pictures and taps could be a good thing.
Personally, if you're going to judge me based on X, Y, or Z characteristics, I probably wouldn't want to get to know you at all. I have no problem blocking individuals I find creepy.
Not wanting to date or hookup with individuals I don't find an attraction too is not bigotry, it's just preference.
I'll chat, have drinks or become friends with nearly anyone if there's something interesting about a person. You can't tell that from demographics.
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Alan S
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People searching on Grindr tend to compartmentalize everyone enough as it is, looking for people who are the particular "type" they're after - far more than in a club for example, where you don't check someone's driving licence for their age and ask if they're a top before you even say hello.
This would make it way worse.
You could always stick to just dating guys in your high school and use Grindr only when you grow up! -
Chris
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I think a request to chat feature would be better and you can just deny it if they're out of your age range or you're not interested. All these old gays are into younger probably because they didn't get a chance to hookup at a young age because Grindr didn't exist. It still can be creepy tho because it's like seeing your parents or grandparents hookup with people your age which is gross given the age gap.
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Anonymous
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Age range lol gays are so shallow, if you’re truely looking for friends age shouldn’t matter, so they tells me you’re only looking for a hook up!
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Anonymous
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It's getting to the point where I'm gonna uninstall Grindr for this reason. I'm 45 and I'm not interested in anyone under 35. I want to be with someone at least reasonably close to my own age and I'm ******* SICK TO DEATH of having to sift through tons of messages from guys who either don't read my profile or read it and ignore it. For all you "this is discrimination" types-- Look back over your dating/*** history and count the number of wheelchairs. That number, which is zero, is how many ***** I give about your "inclusivity" nonsense. You date who you CHOOSE to date and the rest of us will too.
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Michael Archer
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Lol, messages from twinks who think that you're going to pay them for *** because you're older is even creepier and is always unwanted, but I put up with it because I have met young guys who are into older, experienced, well-built handsome guys. What is needed is a "whiner" blocker from little punks who are too lazy to manage their messages.
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Michael Archer
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Lol, messages from twinks who think that you're going to pay them for *** because you're older is even creepier and is always unwanted, but I put up with it because I have met young guys who are into older, experienced, well-built handsome guys. What is needed is a "whiner" blocker from little punks who are too lazy to manage their messages.
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Tilghman Lesher
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It's a nice idea, but many people don't login at all. Even if they were forced to do so, making up a new email address is easy, too.
We're not going to fix what is a people problem with a technological solution.
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Anonymous
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The answer to this is spiffingly cool.
1) Make it compulsory to put in your age and your age range.
2) Fix Grindr so that everyone outside of your age range (can be or) is automatically blocked from those whose age range they fall outside of.
This will ensure that when anyone logs on EVERYONE on their page is both within their age range and vice versa..
Hows abouts that then.
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Steele
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While I feel the option should be there if people want it, I have met up with a lot of younger guys who say I am WAY above their usual age range but I'm hot so it doesn't matter.
What a lot of guys assume is AGE+ = not attractive/creepy. When in reality age usually isn't the issue, it's the being messaged by people they find unattractive.
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Anonymous
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I don't like the block idea because many youngers will often step out of their age range to experiment. I got it on Gaydar a lot, teenagers whose age range fell twenty years below mine feeling kinky *****.
Far better to have a compulsory field of age range to fill in then we can all be flexible yet know the other person limit.
Gotta admit though that many off us oldies are creepy and can suddenly "turn" like if you are young a conversation that starts with "You're cute" can turn rather suddenly to "You've got a lot to learn."