Ability to block people above your preferred age from messaging you
Messages from older guys can get very creepy and is usually unwanted and I want to be able to block anyone out of my preferred age range from messaging me
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km
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There are many examples of "creepy messaging" and it's not just sourced from or directed towards any particular demographic.
This is a good idea but to narrow, open it up to any of the filters available.
If you don't want to be bothered by people with X, Y, Z characteristics, a feature to block accounts outside those parameters from sending you messages, pictures and taps could be a good thing.
Personally, if you're going to judge me based on X, Y, or Z characteristics, I probably wouldn't want to get to know you at all. I have no problem blocking individuals I find creepy.
Not wanting to date or hookup with individuals I don't find an attraction too is not bigotry, it's just preference.
I'll chat, have drinks or become friends with nearly anyone if there's something interesting about a person. You can't tell that from demographics.
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Alan S
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People searching on Grindr tend to compartmentalize everyone enough as it is, looking for people who are the particular "type" they're after - far more than in a club for example, where you don't check someone's driving licence for their age and ask if they're a top before you even say hello.
This would make it way worse.
You could always stick to just dating guys in your high school and use Grindr only when you grow up! -
Chris
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I think a request to chat feature would be better and you can just deny it if they're out of your age range or you're not interested. All these old gays are into younger probably because they didn't get a chance to hookup at a young age because Grindr didn't exist. It still can be creepy tho because it's like seeing your parents or grandparents hookup with people your age which is gross given the age gap.
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Anonymous
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Age range lol gays are so shallow, if you’re truely looking for friends age shouldn’t matter, so they tells me you’re only looking for a hook up!
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Anonymous
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It's getting to the point where I'm gonna uninstall Grindr for this reason. I'm 45 and I'm not interested in anyone under 35. I want to be with someone at least reasonably close to my own age and I'm ******* SICK TO DEATH of having to sift through tons of messages from guys who either don't read my profile or read it and ignore it. For all you "this is discrimination" types-- Look back over your dating/*** history and count the number of wheelchairs. That number, which is zero, is how many ***** I give about your "inclusivity" nonsense. You date who you CHOOSE to date and the rest of us will too.
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Michael Archer
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Lol, messages from twinks who think that you're going to pay them for *** because you're older is even creepier and is always unwanted, but I put up with it because I have met young guys who are into older, experienced, well-built handsome guys. What is needed is a "whiner" blocker from little punks who are too lazy to manage their messages.
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Michael Archer
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Lol, messages from twinks who think that you're going to pay them for *** because you're older is even creepier and is always unwanted, but I put up with it because I have met young guys who are into older, experienced, well-built handsome guys. What is needed is a "whiner" blocker from little punks who are too lazy to manage their messages.
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Tilghman Lesher
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It's a nice idea, but many people don't login at all. Even if they were forced to do so, making up a new email address is easy, too.
We're not going to fix what is a people problem with a technological solution.
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Anonymous
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The answer to this is spiffingly cool.
1) Make it compulsory to put in your age and your age range.
2) Fix Grindr so that everyone outside of your age range (can be or) is automatically blocked from those whose age range they fall outside of.
This will ensure that when anyone logs on EVERYONE on their page is both within their age range and vice versa..
Hows abouts that then.
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Steele
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While I feel the option should be there if people want it, I have met up with a lot of younger guys who say I am WAY above their usual age range but I'm hot so it doesn't matter.
What a lot of guys assume is AGE+ = not attractive/creepy. When in reality age usually isn't the issue, it's the being messaged by people they find unattractive.
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Anonymous
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I don't like the block idea because many youngers will often step out of their age range to experiment. I got it on Gaydar a lot, teenagers whose age range fell twenty years below mine feeling kinky *****.
Far better to have a compulsory field of age range to fill in then we can all be flexible yet know the other person limit.
Gotta admit though that many off us oldies are creepy and can suddenly "turn" like if you are young a conversation that starts with "You're cute" can turn rather suddenly to "You've got a lot to learn."
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Anonymous
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I don't like the block idea because many youngers will often step out of their age range to experiment. I got it on Gaydar a lot, teenagers whose age range fell twenty years below mine feeling kinky *****.
Far better to have a compulsory field of age range to fill in then we can all be flexible yet know the other person limit.
Gotta admit though that many off us oldies are creepy and can suddenly "turn" like if you are young a conversation that starts with "You're cute" can turn rather suddenly to "You've got a lot to learn."
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Anonymous
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Forgot to mention I actually only look for guys my age or older but when I filter it's full of guys my age who only want young twinks or only want tops etc so I waste my time being rejected...
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Anonymous
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This is kinda what I have said as well, if a user is younger and only interested in for example upto 40 only then they won't show up if I do a filter for younger as I'm too old for them. Saves being rejected or a screen full of guys I have said I like but actually wont like me
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Brian Bruce
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If I'm 22 looking for 19-24 I shouldn't have to get random d pics or awkward messages from 40+ sorry not everyone's thing we all got types and everyons preference should be considered it's not just ageism that's stupid to say that's ignorant or selfish or give hate back.
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Brian Bruce
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I got your back 150% percent I'm tired of having to waste space in bio to say sorry not into older... And yet the train of messages ensue.smh.
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Austin
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This is not a good solution.
I have had long-term, mutually wanted friendships and relationships with guys of all ages, including some much older than me, and some much younger than me. I try to get along with everyone and be a good neighbor and good friend. I try to be supportive of everyone.
We need to focus on good behavior in general, not a discriminatory feature like age blocking. I think that if someone is nasty to you, whatever their age, you should be able to get Grindr to ban them.
We are all in the same village, the same community. People of every age can be supportive of each other and kind to each other. That makes us stronger as a community.
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Rudy
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It's just as creepy to have you young punks threaten and insult older guys!
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pls
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This wont work. They will abuse it by entering an incorrect birthdate.
I agree. It is not like i am not blocking them anyway. The same ones that keep on trying even though i said no 7272 times and blocked them everytime are the most creepy.
I prefer not wasting their time by them just not seeing my profile. I truly think that is nicer than to turn them down everytime and them keep on trying wirh everyone.
For them the app will probably be a lot more boring so they probably will lie about their birthdate.
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Anonymous
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This is discrimination why always gay people discriminate themselves about skin colour age serology etc? This is not appropriate!