More options for position: BJ JO
Some of us are not interested in activities where you have to delcare top or bottom. So many options for those of you that are :)
Can we have options for BJ and JO?
I would really like to search for guys that are just into BJs or Mutual JO.
Vote yes- Sounds good if you don’t like it shut up and don’t use it. To the person who wrote a novel
1000000% agree and long overdue why keep paying for Grindr when I can’t get what I want aka ORAL play
Minhanh Le commented
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I don’t think this is a good idea because if this option was given it would mean that on an official level, Grindr would be sanctioning the usage of their app directly for ****** usage, which is against the law in many states a sit would be seen as a means of sanctioning promiscuous ****** activity and even possible prostitution. This app is an app for gay/trans/bi/***** men to meet and socialize. This app is not a hookup app, at least not officially speaking. (Which is why they have the “report innapropriate behavior” options. It would also be sending a horrible message to the LGBTQ community that all gay men want it to have *** or JO, or get BJ etc etc and I’m personally tired of being viewed at that for that stereotype. Whatever happens in the confidence of your conversations is your business but it’ll be a cold day in **** before I sit adult by and watch this all become even more hyper-sexualized. You guys that want an option for this are absurd and I have no problem saying that. If you are really get that fussy about “mutual JO” vs “mutually exclusive JO” vs “ BJ but won’t recip” are ALL things you are welcome to put in your profile or things that you can discuss with a person that reached out to you and your profile. But if they added that then the next thing people will ask for is an option to show “mutual JO with my dog present” or “BJ but only if it’s in a sketchy bathroom in public so my wife never finds out I’m secretly gay”. Y’all know where I’m goin with this and y’all know I’m right. Has it ever occurred to you people that the reason no one is reaching out to you is because you either A.) are to much of a ***** to show your face, B.) you are probably someone cat fishing, C.) and that if you are showing a picture and B isn’t true then NO ONE IS INTERESTED IN YOU OR THAT NO ONE WANTS WHAT YOU WANNA DO! So don’t seek to cheapen this app even more by asking them to put an optional area for what type of act you want to include your ***** in. After all, this is NOT an app aimed for JUST ***. If anything, this app should be LIMITING **** like this and installing the usage of IP address collecting or a HIPPA compliant area of the company to verify that anyone putting “negative on prep” with a testing date can only do so after having a team review test results and see a prescription for PReP. But anyone reading this would be outraged at that idea and if you are outraged at that idea, let’s be real, you are one of those people that’s putting negative on PReP when your actually positive. Or if you are positive and undetectable then the same HIPPA compliant unit should be reviewing your last set of labs with what your viral load is and what your CD4 count is so that people STOP CATFISHING. This app is how I was tricked in to hooking up with someone who actually was positive with a substantial viral load and I only found out about Post Exposure Prophylaxis via a close friend of mine and through a miracle I didn’t contract the virus. But I did press charges against the user who lied and while Grindr cooperated with authorities to release the chat transcripts via a court order, they otherwise could have given two *****. Thankfully the DA in my area agreed to accept the charges and he was arrested and serving 20 years for attempted murder in the 1st... as he should. I have no problem with peoples choices or what people’s status is... I have a thing about honesty. And the majority of the users on here are NOT honest. It was through another person cat fishing that lead to my close friend being brutally raped and he got off on a technicality. Why don’t we come together and stop think with our dicks and think with our brains on how to beat protect one another. Or is that too much to ask. If you are someone who says that it’s too much to ask... then you have not gone through the horror of being exposed and not knowing what the outcome will be or you haven’t had the horror of **** inflicted on you. To me that makes you just as bad as the liars and catfishera on here. I wouldn’t wish anything like that in my worst enemy. So unless you all are going to offer up something pragmatic and that would kick the scum off of this site then just STFU. You sound like a bunch of whining pieces of s*** that are just looking for how they are gonna nut next. When did this become acceptable to society? When are we going to launch an app that’s innovative and useful to all and actually looks out for its users?!? (That’s rhetorical) and anyone who wants to send me hate messages or debate this then, please, I dare you to challenge anything I just said. Seriously... someone tell me I’m wrong... let’s see how many of you don’t give a f*** about anyone else on here unless it benefits how you are gonna lure more guys in to diversify the ways you can get off!
I agree. “Oral” and “mutual touch” options and a fill in option would be more inclusive
I agree. I love to give oral. Don't always want *********** involved. I can put that in my profile but can't be filtered for that or find guys who want head (cause you know our community's toxic tops LOOOVE to get aggressive when you ask to give throat without the booty.)
I agree times you just want a hand or bj
Amen to that. Not all of us enjoy **** which seems bizarre to most gay guys but **** just doesn’t do anything for me I find it a bit disgusting tbh. Oral is my favourite thing so it would be easier if it was a filter option so we can match with other “sides” and be able to have fun without the pressure of doing something we don’t like
Brian Alexander commented
Joe Cervantes commented
Yes more options PLUS the option to write our own
Jaego Markson commented
Well my idea to state what you're looking for today or in that instance solves this problem
BJ's, HJ's, JO's are a very sane, appreciate and important topic. So many misunderstandings I believe can be avoided if the ability for frank discussion is allowed. I am a physician, retired and trying to recover from time lost. I am only interested in sucking, no reciprocal desired. I'd love the opportunity to clearly communicate that information in my profile.
Love to feel free when offering to give a hummer to the right guy.
Definitely need to have this added! As many have already stated we're not all into ****. It is NOT a prerequisite for being gay/having a fulfilling love life (other orientations are also available, please contact your local stockist for details, erections may go up as well as down, terms and conditions apply, see overleaf for details 😆) Please add this option for us, it would take the misery out of having to explain to guys on here why our butts are out of bounds. Thanks!
Just having a "Side" option in the positions list would go a long way for me. I understand that to other gay men this may sound trivial, but dealing with the blowback from this is by far the most stressful part of using Grindr for me.
I would love for the people for whom anal is really important to have a way to filter me out, and I would love to have a way to find other people who are okay with doing something else.
I'm tired of having the "But what do you even do then?!", "Are sure you are even gay?", and "But you have not tried it with me yet..." conversations.
I need sum 1 to jerk and ******* off
Yes I like this, please
I just posted about this too and completely agree. I’m absolutely not into butt stuff - I don’t enjoy bottoming, I’m not turned on by butts and frankly find rimming a little gross. But I feel like I’m admitting to a crime every time I mention that to other gay men because “sides” are often judged and treated as less-than.
I'm not a top or bottom. I'm a side.
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Basically everything except for penetrative ********. Some sides also limit their ****** activities further. It's just like how a top can refuse you toss your salad because he's not into that.
For more information Google "top bottom side" or "coming out as a side"
For those being shamed Or embarrassed for not wishing to engage in ********: You are valid. You are worthy. You are not any less gay. You are still having *** and ****** relationships. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Don't give in to something you're not comfortable with.
Side note, (pun intended) *********** is not required for a pleasurable ****** experience.
Scott Glanville commented
Weirdly there a hookup app yet ****** suggestive profile photos aren't allowed but ****** preferences are lol